Most people who want a relationship believe that a mediocre relationship is better than no relationship at all, but we do not agree with that. In other words, since the potential for a glorious relationship always exists—we never encourage settling for less.
Remember that you feel the way you do because of the mix of vibrations within you, and that no two people feel exactly the same way about anything. It is possible for two people to be sharing what appears to be an identical experience, but one person is enjoying it while the other is not because their individual mixture of vibrations varies.
Rather than trying to figure out what another person wants and then putting your efforts toward satisfying his or her desires, it is much more productive and satisfying for you to be directing your thoughts toward the things that you desire.
Whatever you are living is causing you to make regular deposits into your Vibrational Escrow account, so anytime something happens that you do not want, you send out a request for what you prefer instead. So, for example, now that your lover has left your experience, your request for someone who wants to be with you has been submitted in a strong, clearer way than ever before.
Many of your experiences throughout this lifetime have caused you to make requests, and so you have created a magnificent relationship that waits for you in Vibrational Escrow and calls you toward the fulfillment of it. And as you find more downstream thoughts, you get closer to the realization of these desires. But today, while your heart is breaking, you are going again the Current, and you are not allowing yourself to get closer to the relationship that waits for you.
People are often amazed when we tell them that every bad thing that has ever happened to them in a relationship is part of the reason why such a magnificent relationship now waits for them. However, if they continue to beat the drum of those bad things that have happened, they will continue to deprive themselves of the discovery of that wonderful creation.
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