Abraham: You Don't Forget That You Want To Feel Good
Q: I have a few questions that are linked together. In keeping with my goal of sharing Abraham with others and trying to teach these laws, I find people -- similar to the way I did when I was first introduced to Abraham -- having difficulty getting other or working through or dealing with their taught religious beliefs. Let me start by offering my understanding of religion and you can tell me whether you agree with this definition or not: highly vibrational beings with the ability to channel the Universe, similar to Esther, lived and taught the messages they received from the Universe and became enlightened spiritual leaders for a group of people. As time went on, others provided their interpretation of these messages and teachings, and wrote them down into a book of laws and history, which in turn became a religion. The clear message which you've always given us -- that you can never get it wrong and you never get it done - got lost. Therefore, when they had their own connection with the universe and learned you never get it wrong and you never get it done, contradicting the "book of religion" that was written, they left and began teaching again. The cycle has continued ad infinitum, hence the multitude of religions we have today, all stemming from the same universal presence and laws. Do you agree with that or disagree with that...?
Abraham: We agree with everything you said. We would add to it something that isn't there, and that is: well-meaning people who want the world to go as well as possible, who do not understand that this is a universe that is attraction-based and that when you say yes to something you include it and when you say no to something you include it, because your attention to it activates it -- so as they looked out into a world that was not as they wanted it to be and shouted "No!" at things they did not want, they just got more of them. And from that process of not being able to control their own experience, they came up with endless concoctions to try to explain why things were not going the way all reason said that it should.
So they fabricated a god that blessed those that were being blessed and that cursed those that were not blessed. In other words, it was the only thing that was logical [to them]. "You must be doing something good -- let's see if we can figure out what it is. *You* must be doing something bad -- let's see if we can figure out what it is." And the good and the bad grew out of individual preferences. In other words, "If you do something that I agree with, you're good. Otherwise, you can't be very good because I'm sure I am."
And then religion and government became intertwined, and it became the way of controlling the bad. [Except that] every effort to control what was considered to be bad just caused more of it. But then the pendulum -- this Step 1 that we are talking about, this fantastic contrasting experience -- as enough people experienced enough of what they did not want, in every moment of that the natural process was taking place as rockets of desires were being launched. And even though these oppressed people -- who were launching all of the rockets that universal forces were coming quickly in response to -- because they were so embroiled in the drama and trauma of their experience, they were incapable of allowing it. But the world as a whole benefitted by the asking that was taking place from those experiences.
And then what you said comes into play, where some enlightened beings who are in alignment with well-being become the receivers of what the masses have been asking for.
Q: Okay, so that last step -- would you say there is a place then for a "formal religion" or is it unnecessary?
Abraham: We would say that there is a place for anything that anyone wants, and there is much about formalized religion that is very satisfying: a gathering place, a place of appreciation, a place of acknowledging value, a place of working together. In other words, community is a wonderful thing.
Q: Okay. So I'll go back with the concept of taught religious beliefs. I was born into a Jewish religion, and they believe that there are 613 commandments given by God. Just like we are receiving messages from you, I'm assuming Moses received those same type of messages and his interpretations got captured and put down. Do you believe that God said there are 613 ways we have to live and if you don't live those ways you have a problem? And I know the answer, but I'm putting it on the table.
Abraham: Well, you have to understand that God, in your reference, does not speak in words but in vibration.
Abraham: And the vibration is interpreted by those in your time/space reality. So you have to ask the question: in what vibrational mode were they when they were doing the translating? Because if they were not vibrationally aligned with that which is Source, they could not possibly receive the message, and any time anybody is saying "Thou shalt not do" anything, they're not lined up. So you fill in the blanks.
Q: Right. Okay. I just wanted it on the tape.
Abraham: You'll get Esther burned at the stake.
Q: You have taught that it's not our job to worry about what other people do. In fact, you state, "It's not necessary for even one other person to understand the laws of the universes or the processes that we are offering in order for *you* to have a wonderful, happy, productive life experiencing.
... However, I have attracted others to me that want to know, for want of a better term, the keys to my success. And my gift to them has always been a copy of the Sara book. And if they like that, I give them the introductory tape to Abraham. That is the time that things stray from their understanding and beliefs and start messing with their religious beliefs. I call this the in-the-beginning phase.... I don't want to push against anything, otherwise I'll attract more of it, like you've already stated. So should I offer my understanding of religions as [I've stated them] or would they push against me? And this is like you just said - and instead they will call me a successful weird guy or, worse, a devil worshipper, not that I really care, just like you said.
Abraham: Well, here's the thi- --- you don't care about you or Esther? (Laughter.) You're wanting to be sensitive to those that you are visiting with, and you don't want to go beyond what LOA provides. In other words, when you answer questions that are not being asked, there's almost always a backlash because it's like pushing a noodle -- you're trying to give information that they're not asking for and it is usually uncomfortable. When you are sensitive and just answering what they are asking for, then things go better.
But what happens with an uplifter like you, a teacher like you, is that they are asking in lots of different ways. When someone is complaining about something, it's like asking -- it's like saying, "My life isn't going well," and you can hear that they definitely are asking. But the thing that will really help yo u a great deal is that when someone is complaining, when they're struggling with something, which is the time you want to rush in and give them the answer, you've got to remember they're in step 1. In other words, this is the phase where they're formulating their question.
So it would be helpful to you to help them to understand that you understand their question, a sort of "I know, I've been there, too." Don't take that opportunity to try to give them answers because they can't hear answers. No one can when they're struggling with the step 1 phase of it. And then if they're important to you, you'll have plenty of opportunity, when they are in a more relaxed and allowing phase, to help them to understand. And there is not anything more important than to teach through the power of your example.
So when someone says, "What's the secret of your success?", what we would say -- and of course it depends on how sincerely they're asking -- we would stop for a minute and see if we can figure out if they're in step 1 or if they're in step 3. Because if they're in step 1, any answer you give them is going to irritate the life out of them. Because nobody who is in a place where they're not getting what they want, wants to hear you putting it in their face how well your life is going.... So if they're in the step 1 phase, you might say something like "I just got tired of being frustrated and I knew that there had to be a better way, and little by little I found it." And "It looks to me like you're doing all right" and "You're not doing so different than I was doing." Be real soft about it. And then later on when you're interacting with them and something is really going well for you and for them, then that's the time to say, "Isn't life good? Since I started relaxing more, more good things come to me."
In other words, if you are a parent or a mentor to someone and you're in a bad feeling place, don't try to hide it and pretend that you're in a better feeling place because all you do is what the religionists have done - you pretend something that isn't, which gives mixed signals to everybody so then nobody can figure out why something is working or is not working. And then when you are feeling extremely well, acknowledge that you are and why. And if you are up close and personal to someone... and you are not in a very good place, don't hide it. "I'm not in a very good place, and I can feel that I'm not letting the well-being in that would be there and that I've experienced on so many other occasions. I can tell it's time to chill. I'm going to do my best to feel better, I'm going to remove myself from this and not think about it for a while and see if I can return to who I really am." Teach through your power of example. And when you teach through your power of example, anybody can learn it. The reason that people have a hard time learning stuff is because people are not teaching through the power of their example - they're saying one thing when they're vibrating another. And that's exactly what you as a teacher is doing when you're sucked into their problems trying to teach them how to allow. Because you're not in the vibration of allowing when you are identifying with [their] problem -- you get a sense of it?
Abraham: So the most important thing about teaching anyone anything is recognizing what is their reception mode -- are they in a reception or not? An if they're not in a reception mode save your breath.
Q: I've experienced that with my 12-year-old daughter. I know that exact feeling.
Abraham: Everyone's experienced it both trying to help others and trying to be helped by others. Even Jerry and Esther, as much as they understand this and as well-connected as they are, nothing is more irritating to Esther than to know she's not in a good place and have Jerry or anyone well-meanin wanting to guide her back to it. (Laughter.) It's sort of like, "I know I'm out of alignment -- let me be! I've chosen this miserable mood. It's mine, I worked hard to achieve it! Leave me alone! Go off and be happy with someone else for a moment, and I'll get there!" But all that happens when someone tries to bring you back is it amplifies your awareness of where you are. You already know where you are -- you're miserable. You know you're not there.
This is a self-guided tour, folks. That's why you've got guidance within you -- it's a self-guided tour. And you're not trying to teach them, you're trying to connect them to their guidance. That's the only thing as a teacher you can ever do. And that's where the religions have gone wrong -- the religions are trying to guide you. They're trying to tell you what to do and how to do it and when to do it. They're not letting it be a self-guided tour -- they're trying to guide the tour! And they can't do it, that's why there are so many religions. That's why even today... people are dying every year because is believing that they are here to guide your tour, and they're not here to guide your tour. They're here to guide their own personal tour, you see.
That was really good. (Laughter.) It was really good.
Q: Note to Jerry: that was really good.
Abraham: And so what you are, and what we are -- we are wanting to assist people in recognizing how to guide their own tour. And the only way that you can teach that is by guiding your own, and then sort of explaining along the way how you're doing. "Oh, I feel so much better now that I'm doing this," and make it about you, not about them. If you make it about you, they're a lot more ready to listen. If you make it about them, they don't want to hear -- you don't understand their life, you haven't walked in their shoes, you don't live with their wife. (Laughter. Pause.) You have a very nice wife. (Laughter.) Very
Abraham: Read your notes from here?
Q: Yeah, exactly -- you always hit it before I even get 'em out.
Abraham: You are an open book to us.
Q: Why do we forget what we know or our consciousness is blurred from what we know in nonphysical state, when we come into the physical state?
Abraham: You don't. You don't forget that you want to feel good. That's why feeling bad feels bad. If you'd forgotten, feeling bad might feel good.
(Laughter.) But you didn't forget -- you know how you feel. You did not come forth into this time/space reality wanting to remember all that stuff from other times that doesn't apply to you.
Q: Okay, that's, I think, the point then.
Abraham: Because your power is in the now. You're standing right here and now, and the only thing that is important to you is the relationship between where you are and where you want to be. And anything else is irrelevant. Everything else is irrelevant.
-- Abe -- Detroit, MI, 9/14/02