Are You Settling?

Hi All,

This week the angels challenged me to look at areas in life where I was settling vs. creating. It was an interesting exercise and dramatically improved a few things that had big impact. From their perspective we deserve to love everything in our lives. Read on and hear their loving view. I'll share tips and stories as always :)

Have a blessed & beautiful week :)
♥ Ann

Message from the Angels

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

Are you living your life? Are you getting up and looking forward to something each day, or have you settled for coping and getting through a life you don't truly enjoy? As little children, you knew that you came to this planet to create, feel alive, and thrive. Slowly but surely, however, many of you were conditioned to wait for your joy, work for your reward, and to suffer and sacrifice. Many of you were conditioned by others who thought it was noble, holy, and righteous to put off their own joy.

You were taught that you could enjoy your dessert only after you finished your dinner. You were taught that you could play only after completing your homework. You were taught that "life isn't easy," "no one hands you things on a silver platter," "no pain, no gain," "life doesn't come easy," "money doesn't grow on trees," "you have to pay your dues," and a whole host of other beliefs that were passed down for generations by those who had inadvertently disconnected themselves from the joyful energy of Source.

While this may be conventional human "wisdom," as we see it, it is spiritual nonsense. You came wired with a guidance system that gives you good feelings about things that are good for you and bad feelings about things that aren't. However, over time, you learned to put your own internal feelings aside and look to others to "give you" feelings. You look to others for approval. You look to the pack to make sure you are socially acceptable. You look to the experts to figure out how to live your life. It can be so much simpler.

If you want your life to be happier and easier, you can take a little quiet time each day, even a few minutes, to silence the mind and surrender to the love that is flowing to you at all times. The Source wants, knows, and cares about what is the most joyful, healthy, happy, abundant, and loving path uniquely for you. Your angels are always trying to guide you along that path.

As you sit quietly, you reconnect with your own feelings. Some of these will be pleasant inspirations. Some of these will be feelings you don't want to feel. You may feel the disappointment you've settled for or the frustration or impatience you feel around another's behavior. You may feel your own anger or sadness. You may feel a sense of powerlessness, which often manifests as anxiety. Feeling your feelings is good. They tell you where your vibration is and why you attract what you do.

When you get in touch with how you truly feel, then you can reach for the thoughts that truly create an improvement in vibration. You remain vibrationally stuck when you pretend to feel good about things you don't. When you find genuine reasons to feel good about the here and now, your vibration rises, and you create movement.

Perhaps you've pretended that you're ok with a past relaionship, and that you've moved on, but everytime you sit quietly and think of the person you feel irritation or anger arising. Don't stuff it. Feel it. Feel beneath it. What is the anger telling you that you want – not from that individual, but from life? Perhaps you passionately want people who take their share of responsibility in your life. Perhaps you deeply desire those who listen and care about your heart. What is it you want? As you focus on how it might feel to have that new and improved situation in your life, suddenly your passion for life returns. Hope returns. Soothing occurs. Joy may even return as you remember you can have what you want, if not from one person or situation then from another. You have gone beneath the painful emotions and found the love. This is a true vibraitonal improvement.

Perhaps you're coping but deep down feel an aching grief after a loss. This is entirely human, understandable, and nothing to be ashamed of. There are times when you must surrender to the emotion, and the greatest love you can give yourself is allowing the sobs and tears to pour forth from your ever-loving heart. But after the "rain," after the "storms" of emotions, breathe. What do you want? You want to feel a connection with your dear ones. You want to feel a connection with life, self, and love. Can you, for just an instant, perhaps imagine what it would feel like to be in this state of connection? Can you find hope that you will achieve it? If so, you have raised your vibration, soothed yourself, and allowed the connection to begin. You may have to reach for these improved feelings time and again. Grief comes in waves. Nonetheless, each time you do, you are on a path to genuinely solidify the connections you seek.

Perhaps you're in a job you can't stand, truly making the best of it, but as you sit quietly, you realize that you've lost hope for change. You feel resigned. You don't quite believe you can find better. Perhaps you can admit that you can't find better, but the heavens can. Maybe you can quiet your mind each day, make the best of what you've got, and dream of better. Now you are on a better path. Little by little, you'll start anticipating a new job. As your vibration matches the future situation, you'll be inspired and guided straight to a better job.

Dear ones, we know that there are times when you are in a life situation you don't like, around people you don't care for, or faced with problems you don't know how to solve. Feeling helpless, powerless, victimized, resigned, angry or sad is okay. In fact, it is better to feel that than to deny your feelings. Once you are honest about where you are, you can truly begin to create better.

You can remind yourself, "I was not born to settle. I was not born to rebel. I was not born to save, fix, or change others. I was born to experience situations that would motivate me to create and then to create what I want. I was born to feel alive and to thrive."

Your life is happening now. It doesn't begin when everything looks perfect. It doesn't start after you have worked yourself to death to fill the bank account or, at long last, made it to retirement. Your life doesn't begin after the kids are in school, when the economy finally settles out or when the world is stable. Your life is happening here and now, today, in this breath. Feel your feelings, then gradually, one choice at a time, begin to improve them. As you raise your vibration, hope, inspiration, passion, and enthusiasm for life will return.

God Bless You! We love you so very much.
-- The Angels

Message from Ann...

Hi Everyone,

The angels have been challenging me this week to look at areas where I've been settling for feelings that are less than wonderful. That surprised me. I do a pretty good job of keeping my thoughts and vibration well-maintained. However, I've got strong intent to grow and expand through joy rather than waiting for pain to motivate me, and this was their way of supporting that intent.

So I took inventory. Was my body perfectly where I want it to be? I had to admit that I've been accepting and adapting to some old misalignments from past injuries. I was settling. I started to go inward each day and imagine feeling as free and vigorous in my body when I was young. I focused on those feelings of strength, flexibility, freedom, and bliss in nature. My posture has started to re-adust on its own. Old tensions are starting to release. I've been resting more and pushing myself less, very naturally. I'm feeling incredible improvement.

My own story reminds me of a much more amazing one by Evelyn Monahan in her book, "The Miracle of Metaphysical Healing," which you can find used or in a free downloadable pdf if you google it. Evelyn was in an accident in which she lost her vision and developed epilepsy. She lived like this and coped with it for nearly a decade until it dawned on her that she knew how to fix it! She started to take fifteen minutes, three times a day, to imagine the healed conditions. She could see within less than two weeks and never had a seizure again! She proceeded to teach thousands of people how to heal themselves using only their minds.

It is incredible how we can adapt to things far less than desirable, perhaps because we don't know how to fix them, we don't think we can, we get attached to feeling victimized, or in my case, sheer mental laziness! I know what to do.

I looked at other areas in my life to see where I was settling. I realized I'd been living with workarounds due to leaks in my old irrigation system. That was an easy fix that didn't require a vibrational adjustment except to anticipate a working system and schedule the repairs. My garden is now very happy!

Area by area, I looked through my life to see where I needed to recalibrate thoughts or actions so I could be satisfied instead of settling.

When I got in the car to get groceries and discovered a low tire, I started settling for a disrupted schedule until I remembered to create. I imagined it quickly and safely fixed, got the urge to get on the computer, and discovered that the only appointment remaining at the tire shop the next day was precisely when I could go. Had I moaned and groaned and felt sorry for myself, I would have missed the guidance and probably the opening!

I think I'll just keep an eye out for "settling" as a regular practice. It sure makes life more fun!

Challenges still happen. Life is still life. The economy and the world are still doing what they will do. Nonetheless, the more honest I get about what works and what could be improved, the more I can tweak my vibration, and the more satisfying and easier life becomes.

Next weekend I'm teaching "Living in the flow of Grace." I always challenge myself to take my own classes before I teach them, and I'm feeling pretty happy in the flow these days! If you feel it, join me up in Sedona!

Here are a few more tips to help you avoid settling...

1. Take Inventory

Every now and then, perhaps once a week, or once a month, or even once a year, stop and really get in touch with your feelings in the major areas of your life – body, home, spiritual connections, relationships, and see where you are "settling" – wanting more but accepting less and doing nothing about it.

Pick one area to start with. What do you really want? If you know what to do about it, start taking steps to accomplish it.

If you don't, spend a little time each day imagining what it would feel like – how absolutely wonderful it would feel – to have what you really want. No need to envision details. Focus on the feeling. Wait for inspiration. See how things start to shift. When you create one improved situation, move to the next.

2. Focus on Progress not Perfection

As you improve your vibration, the indicator that you're creating better is that you feel better when you think about the topic. I was thinking about my body and how to cope with some misalignments all the time. When I was honest, that was a chore and not much fun. When I started thinking about feeling wonderful and free in the body, I felt excited, passionate, and alive. That was my first indicator that my thoughts and, therefore my vibration was going to produce solutions. Hang onto the better feelings, knowing that they are, inevitably, a sign that the fix is in progress.

3. Celebrate your wins

As you start to create better situations – be it improved health, a new relationship, or even a clean and organized junk drawer, celebrate your wins. The more you can celebrate good feelings, the quicker the situations change. The more you can celebrate your manifestations and own them, the more you can manifest. The more confident you get in your own abilities to let the universe work through you, the easier it gets to release worry and anxiety and replace them with genuine anticipation. Celebrate your wins, even if only by congratulating yourself and basking in your own goodness!

We've been pretty trained to settle, some more so than others, and often in some areas of life more than others, but the bottom line is that we are creators, and if we can tap into a feeling more often than not, we can have what that feeling represents. From the most seemingly impossible or insurmountable situation to the tiniest annoyance, we can improve our lives – one better thought and one improved feeling at a time. You deserve that!

Have a beautiful week and if you feel inspired to do so,
join me in Sedona next weekend :)




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Ann Albers

Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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