My dear friends, we love you so very much.
As you release yourself from the expectations of your past, you will find that you allow room in your life for the magic and miracles that can only be created by God. When you surrender to your own heart, allow yourself to flow according to your natural rhythms, and give up your expectations of perfection, you start to realize that you are perfect already. Life is perfect as it is. Others are perfectly where they should be to support the growth their soul needs at this time.
You can dance with life rather than struggling with it. Like water, you can try to move the boulders and obstacles, but when they do not budge, you can carve a new path around them.
In this letting go of expectations, you allow room for greater creation. You free up energy that would otherwise be wasted. "But dear angels," we hear you cry! "I expect kind treatment! I expect my bills to be paid! How can you ask us to give up expectation!" Dear ones, this is not exactly what we are speaking of. By all means, expect kind treatment, but when it does not occur, simply move away. If you hold a specific individual bound to your expectations and they do not live up to that reality you waste a lot of time and energy being upset or trying to get them to change. Simply move on. Simply ignore the bad behavior, or speak up with love and kindness, albeit firmly at times, for this is the only way in which YOU will find peace. You will never find peace when you hold yourself or others to standards that you, or they, cannot yet reach.
A kindergärtner is lucky to be able to share his A,B,C's. If you were to get upset that he or she wasn't able to articulate complex ideas in writing, you would be wasting your energy. He or she is simply not there yet.
Likewise you do your best in any given moment of your life. You get upset. You make so-called mistakes. You can't fit everything in a day that you would like. Sometimes you have vowed to treat yourself well and you forget. Dear ones, stop beating yourselves up. Stop holding yourselves to standards of perfection and then using these as tools to see yourself as anything less than divine. Strive, of course, for better at all times, but when you, in your human terms, "Mess Up," bless the mess, learn from it, and move on. When others don't live up to your standards, bless them, speak up kindly, and move on.
You are at a time on earth when you want to be very careful where you spend your energy. And while we understand that you all want to be more loving, do better, and reach your goals, we encourage you to treat yourselves with love as you learn to do so. While we understand that you wish others would be wiser, kinder, and more loving, we encourage you to either treat them with love or simply move away when they are not.
Your energy is a precious resource dear ones. Use it wisely. Spend it on thoughts and behaviors that honor your spirit, and when you do not, be kind to yourselves anyway. In doing so, you are being kind to God, for God's love lives within you and you live within God as well.
God bless you! We love you so very much.
-- The Angels
Message from Ann
I have noticed in my life that when I am being kind to myself, life is kind to me. When I am being generous with myself I attract generous people. And when I am either beating myself or trying to "earn" love from others, that leads to one heck of a holy mess in my life!!
And while I like myself pretty well and have been urged by the angels to practice self love for years, recently I've decided, that because I want more in life for myself, I had better start treating myself even better! The thought struck me, most likely from the angels, it is so easy to criticize ourselves, why not turn that around and compliment myself for every little last thing I feel good about. And so I've been waking up and saying, "Gosh I look good today!" When I am kind to a person, "That was so sweet of you Ann!" When I do something creatively that I enjoy, I tell myself, "Wow! Look at the beauty you are leaving in this world!" And when I get frustrated at someone in traffic and am less than loving, instead of beating myself up, I'll say, "Well they weren't too nice and you did your best, but that's ok! You'll do better next time!" This new habit has been both funny and a lot of fun! I've been putting good thoughts, good words, and only loving statements into my own psyche! It feels so contrived and so weird at first, but at the same time, why is it that self-criticism, self-denial, and self-deprecation should feel natural! That's backwards!!
Try it! Try being totally loving to yourself. Try telling yourself good things. Try encouraging yourself when you are down, and consoling yourself when you have a less than proud moment. It certainly feels a LOT better than what most of us were trained to do, and it certainly is how the angels would prefer we treat ourselves! I think people are afraid of becoming arrogant and yet arrogance simply comes from the insecure. People are afraid of being narcissistic but truly narcissists don't love themselves, they hate themselves so much they pretend to love themselves to the extreme.
True self love is adorable. Look at a child who brags about his talents! Look at a rose blooming, practically crying out to be noticed by the sheer beauty of its being. You can both love yourself immeasurably and be humble because you know it all comes from God! I know it isn't ego-Ann creating all this good in my life. Ego-Ann is just getting out of the way finally and allowing it. And when I hurt or get cranky or do something less than spiritually evolved, it is fine to console little ego-Ann because she's doing her best. That is what the Love within you would do! That is what the angels would do. And in beginning to live this way you start to identify more and more with the loving truth of who you really are.
The added benefit to such self love is that the world begins to reflect that love back to you in the most magical ways as well and the few who don't like it will fall by the wayside. You won't care! You are being too nice to yourself to let anyone be mean or to take it seriously if they are. So start living a charmed life by being loving, kind, and charming to yourself. It is not arrogant. You are not saying you are better than anyone else. To the contrary those who truly love themselves can be more gracious, loving, and kind to others as well because they realize that they, and all others, are truly special and unique manifestations of God's love.
Try it :) You have nothing to lose and a world of love to gain!
Love you all!