You Are Perfect Just As You Are

My dear friends, we love you so very much.

Dear ones, the more you connect with your own hearts, the more you connect with God, and the more connected you will feel with all of life. For you cannot possibly relate to others or the world around you if you are not relating honestly with yourself. Do you really know what you want? Or are you operating in response to all the "shoulds" you have been programmed with over the course of a lifetime.

Take time sometime this week and write down on a piece of paper, all the "shoulds" you can think of that you have been programmed with over the course of your life – both the ones that were spoken to you and the ones that were modeled for you. And then look at your life, and see the correlation. "I should put everyone else's needs first." "I should always be nice even if it means avoiding speaking my truth." "I should be responsible even if that means ignoring my own heart." "I should get my work done before I play." "I should eat my dinner before my dessert." "I should eat better." "I should be thinner." "I should be married by now." "I should have more in my retirement account by this age." Keep going. Dig deep. Allow the "shoulds" that define you to bubble to the surface. And when you are all finished, feel the weight of those "shoulds." Feel the burden of being told you must be something other than what you actually are in each moment. And when you are ready, rip, shred, burn, or bury that piece of paper, and make a decision that you will be who are you from now on in any given moment.

Who said you should be married, rich, thin, heavier, more beautiful, less flashy, quieter, more outspoken, more careful with your diet, more free with your diet, etc.? God says something entirely different. God says: Be who you are. You are love. Love yourself in each moment. You are already beautiful. You are already in relationship with all of creation. You are perfect as you are. Your body will tell you what to eat in any given moment. You will feel like doing the things that are guiding you on your path. You will want to do what is right for everyone's soul if you are honest with yourself.

Examine your life this week and really ask yourself how many of your activities are done out of shoulds vs. how many are done out of true desires. Do you go to work because you should pay the bills, or because you truly want to pay the bills. What is the difference you ask? I have to go to work! No you don't dear ones. You could quit and let others take care of you if that were in your heart. You could simplify and get a different job. You could create a new career. You see, there is powerful energy in owning your choices, getting real about what you are doing authentically because there is a reason in your heart to do it, vs. what you are doing out of a "should" or what you are doing simply because you have not examined why you are doing it. Start to own your choices dear ones. Start to do things because you want to do them. And if you do not want to be doing something, examine your alternatives and get busy starting to make the changes. Your life is short dear friends. Make it yours.

God bless you! We love you so very much.
-- The Angels

Message From Ann

We've all heard it. "Don't should on me!" And yet we "should" on ourselves all the time!! Just a few weeks ago I started a creative project that I loved but I got sucked into the need to "get it done" because I had a little "should" running that said, "Once you start on something you need to finish it asap." The joy slowly started to get sucked out of this project that I loved because it had become just one more item on the "to do" list rather than something I was doing for joy. I stopped, switched gears, and will be working on it leisurely now as it gives me pleasure.

So many "shoulds" have colored my life. I fought with my hair my entire life only to discover it is easier to allow it to dry naturally, using a blowdryer only in the winter when it is cold out! I was 'nice' to everyone instead of being truthful in my past. I said yes when I meant "no" because I didn't' want to offend anyone. I offended my soul instead! I went to college and became an electrical engineer because I knew I "should" use my good brain in some sort of brainy way. I totally ignored my love of writing and the creative arts. Those were "hobbies." I knew I had to get a "serious" career. I did. And I didn't love it at all. One more "should" went out the window as I switched to be an angel communicator.

Even when I got honest about my new career, I was riddled with "shoulds." I dressed the way I thought I "should" in such a profession. The long goddess gowns that Doreen Virtue wears look beautiful on her but absolutely ridiculous on me! I'm short and they don't match MY personality. I like sparkles. Now I dress for my inner fairie more often. For years, I acted the way I thought a spiritual instructor "should" act. Tasteful. Tame. I censored my speaking. The truth is I'm not all that! I'm rambunctious, feisty, and have a corny sense of humor in addition to the huge compassion I feel for humanity. The more I became myself, the more enjoyable my classes have been for me and my students. Over the years I have had to unlearn my shoulds and have learned to just be me. It feels so much better. And the more I am me, the more comfortable I am letting others be who they are as well, with no need to fix or change and only a desire to love.

One of my favorite series on TV is the "Food Network Star" series. I like it for two reasons. Obviously it is about food and I love food. But even more than that, the stars are stretched beyond their comfort zone as they are asked to bring their authentic selves to the forefront and to be real in front of the camera. This is not one of those "reality" shows where people parade around acting like spoiled divas, but rather a series in which people are asked to share their hearts, their stories, and their own unique point of view! I love it! Those are life skills we all need to hang on to. Who you are is who God designed you to be and there is nothing wrong with that. You are part of the big puzzle of life and we will all fit life when we start being ourselves and trying to fit others' notions of who we "should" be. Look at the word, "GURU". A real Guru's wisdom is simply telling you, "GEE YOU ARE YOU! G.U.R.U.!" How funny is that :)!

Next time you feel compelled to be anything other than who you really are in the moment, think again. You are loving. You are kind. And you can lovingly and kindly be honest with the world about who you want to be. Say what is true for you, kindly. Dress in ways that make you feel happy and good. Eat what your body is craving rather than what the books say you should. Do the things that give you joy. Life is indeed too short to try to be something other than who we are.

Have a happy week,
Ann

Comments

Connie 51 29th August 2011 12:18 pm

Thank you so much for this article. So timely smile. And thank you for sharing the wonderful human Ann, and your struggles even now with the Should s.
Wishing you joy. Not that you don't have joy dear one. But in my heart, we can never have too much joy.

SpiritHeart 29th August 2011 4:53 pm

Dearest Ann,

Thank you for your beautiful write This is a perfect and encouraging article to help us with embracing who we are without having to pretend to be anyone else but who we are.

Thank you beautiful Ann. And You are perfect just as you are:)

With love always... may joy surround you eternally

xo

SpiritHeart 29th August 2011 4:53 pm

Dearest Ann,

Thank you for your beautiful write This is a perfect and encouraging article to help us with embracing who we are without having to pretend to be anyone else but who we are.

Thank you beautiful Ann. And You are perfect just as you are:)

With love always... may joy surround you eternally

xo

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Ann Albers

Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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