Even though you may understand intellectually what is happening to those relationships that no longer feel loving or valuable – whether human, animal or other entity – emotionally, you are exhausted and devastated. That person or entity might have been your touchstones of security for decades or eons. Please know that they are not bad or evil, they just do not fit within your being in a comfortable and loving fashion.
Perhaps it would be easier to understand if you think of yourself as a round puzzle with round puzzle pieces and the other person or entity as a square puzzle with square puzzle pieces. One shape is not better than the other, merely different and not interchangeable. So it is for you now. You do not hate the people or objects you are moving away from, you just do not feel comfortable with them any longer. You cannot understand them and they cannot understand you.
What are you to do about the void left in your heart now that they are no longer part of you – at least at the level they were before the shift? What indeed? Who or what do you want in your life and why?
You see we have returned to the basics again. Who are you? Do you wish to be with someone who makes you uncomfortable? Why? And if not, why not? What is different about you…or them? Create the relationships that fit the new you much as you did when you left home or starting dating. You are not alone. You merely have to set your personal radar to a station that matches like-minded people or entities.
The key phrase is self-worth. For eons, you have accepted without question the phrase, “To give is better than to receive.” Do you realize how many belief patterns are attached to that phrase – including gender, race, religion, age, government and economics?
Historically, women were protected by their male relatives or spouses to the extent that they were not able to vote, hold office or own property. Such beliefs seem ludicrous now given that women are voting, serving in the military, owning property and serving in office. But many belief patterns needed to shift before such dramatic societal changes occurred. Such changes required decades of dedicated work by those who believed men and women were equal intellectually and physically.
Your recent shift feels so dramatic – and exhausting – because it occurred within days instead of decades. It was not something you planned for or protested for to obtain. The shift happened without your conscious awareness. And that is how shifts will continue to occur throughout this transition process – easily and naturally, but surprising to you in terms of your reactions and actions.
There is no historical perspective for this shift. Nor are there texts or professors to help you wade through the materials. Merely you acting and reacting according to your inner-being.
Now you ask what else will be expected of you in this transition? You have already given up a great deal in the last few days by moving beyond the people or objects you once held dear. In the not-to-distant future, you will review what you gave up recently and realize the person, entity or object did not expect or accept an equal relationship. For if it were equal, you would not have given it up.
Have you dated someone wonderful until you started noting discrepancies in their words and actions and you needed to let them go? So it was for you in the last few days. But again, there were no self-help books to tell you what to do. You acted from your inner-being not societal dictates – how frightening that is to many. No rules, no guidance – just you knowing who you are and what you need.
In the past, you were inundated with correct moves and actions provided your psychologists, self-help gurus, parents and religious leaders. Even though they may have had somewhat different viewpoints, they all provided a “correct” framework for who you were and how you acted. Those few people who dared to move beyond those rules laid down by others found themselves justifying their actions by pointing out a philosophy or text that indicated a similar activity. Such safety nets no longer apply.
How can a societal safety net apply when you have transferred your power to your inner-being? And how can your moves be correct for anyone else? Allow yourself to know that you are a powerful, self-governing entity – as is everyone else. Then allow yourself to know that what occurred in the past few days was you allowing your self-governing being to move in a direction that was and is correct for you.
Your self-governing being is not mean, vicious or self-aggrandizing. It merely wishes to help your physical being move into the place that will encompass the joy, love and peace you have long hoped for. Your self-governing being is slowly but surely waking up to the New Age.
Much of what has transpired pertaining to the New Age/new energy/new earth in the past forty years has been an intellectual discussion of the possibilities. In the last few years, your physical being began shifting – but not to the extent that you felt or acted much differently. Perhaps you visualized, had your favorite mantras or associated with others who felt similarly – but your life continued much as was before you found the materials.
Your physical being is shifting to meet the intellectual thoughts you have processed for a few decades. You are becoming the person you wanted to be, and hoped to be, in the New Age/new earth. To do that you must move away from those people and entities that force or urge you to physically act as you always have. The New Age you is physically coming into being with all the twists of your personality such changes require.
Can you remain happily involved in what you term “dysfunctional relationships?” Not if you are moving into the New Age. You cannot be an alcoholic, spouse beater, thief, murderer or any similar activity and comfortably move into the New Age/new earth. Not that any of those labels are terrible in themselves, but rather do not include love, joy and peace. New actions for the new you. Paramount of which is self-worth. And self-worth is not synonymous with a dysfunctional relationship, rage, hate and anger.
You took a major physical step into the new earth/New Age in the past few days by acting on feelings that you no longer wish to be part of a dysfunctional anything. You brave souls in a matter of months moved into a place that would normally take hundreds of years.
No wonder you are starting to surprise yourself with your actions – you continually surprise us.
So be it. Amen
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