Feel Your Life: The healing power of grief

I’ve just come home from seeing the movie Rabbit Hole with Nicole Kidman and Aaron Eckhart.  It’s a beautiful film that helps to facilitate the healing power of grief.  I highly recommend seeing it, especially if you need a good cleansing cry.

While on the cruise, I had an opportunity to talk about the way in which grief connects us to our deepest self.  When we are brave enough to feel the pain of loss, we open ourselves up to so much more – softness, the kindness of others, power that comes from anger, or a deeper, more exquisite love.

We can gently encourage the process of grief by seeing a sad movie, talking with a friend who listens without commentary, or by reading the words of writers who have captured their own healing journey of loss and reclamation of self. 

On the cruise, I opened my keynote presentation with a poem from my friend, Nancy Levin, who has just published a book of poetry about the end of her marriage and the beginning of a new life.  Her poems provoked much conversation on the cruise among people who were experiencing shifts in their relationships, and I thought I’d share one of them with you this week. 

The book is called: Writing for My Life…Reclaiming the Lost Pieces of Me, and it’s a beautiful catalyst for healing.  Stop for a moment, take a slow, deep breath, and let the words flow through you…

on the threshold of something new

this is the summer
of heart ache and

i wake and lay in bed
remembering all the things
that will never happen
all the places we will not go
all the things we will not do

the taste in my mouth
is of a marriage crashing

healing the past
inside the present
remains and relics
embedded and intact
a return and forward
an arrival

left alone in the dark
we each must discover
our own light

the hope is killing me
fear of being abandoned
for any sort of weakness
or not knowing
what do you think you’ve done
with all your feeling all this time

this gets you in trouble
interfering with decisions
already in progress
it’s the fear that makes you question
not the faith
constantly recreating
the wounds of childhood
until they heal

seemingly stranded in the liminal
this time between no longer and not yet
no longer married and
not yet divorced
on the threshold of something new

i made a promise that i cannot keep
it will shock you how much it never happened

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Whether grief feels right to you or not, use this week’s newsletter as a reminder to give yourself the time and space you need to feel your life.  It’s feeling that gives life depth, meaning, and rightful weight. 

This week’s video is another moving experience from Ashes and Snow – sure to make you feel .  You’ll find it here.



Den 10th February 2011 8:08 am

Ashes and Snow,...a serene journey of peace and beauty with deep, thoughtful, poetic narration; all draped in a warm, sepia-toned atmosphere, wet with contemplative music.


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Cheryl Richardson

Cheryl Richardson is the New York Times bestselling author of several books including, Take Time for Your LifeLife MakeoversStand Up for Your LifeThe Unmistakable Touch of GraceThe Art of Extreme Self Care, You Can Create an Exceptional Life with Louise Hay, and her new book, Waking Up in Winter: In Search of What Really Matters at Midlife.

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