Preconceived Expectations: My trip to the Registry of Motor Vehicles

This week I had an opportunity to visit the Registry of Motor Vehicles (RMV) – the office where you get your driver’s license renewed every five years.  Before you read on, though, stop for a moment and notice the thoughts that occur to you when you think about visiting the RMV.

Okay, now read on…

My license expired last November on my birthday and I’d been remiss in getting it renewed.  Now and then I’d make a note to go, but then promptly forget about it. Well, Wednesday night, on my way home from dinner with my husband, Michael, I was stopped by a police officer for driving with an expired license. He was kind enough to let me go without a ticket and strongly suggested I get it renewed ASAP.

The next day I stepped out my front door headed for the RMV, dreading the visit. I imagined myself waiting in long lines, dealing with grumpy, overworked and underpaid employees, and spending half my day on what should be a five minute task. I even worried about whether or not I’d pass the eye exam. By the time I pulled my car out of the driveway, I was frustrated and miserable. Then, I remembered something important: I’d written a book called “You Can Create an Exceptional Life” with Louise Hay. Duh.

In that moment of awareness I made a decision to break the spell. I started imagining an easy, fun experience.  In my mind I saw happy people waiting in line, friendly employees ready to help me, and I affirmed that it would only take a few minutes to get my license renewed.  I drove to the address, parked my car, and went inside.

When I walked into the RMV office, I saw at least twenty people waiting in line.  I took a number and sat down next to a sweet elderly couple, to patiently wait my turn. I closed my eyes and visualized an easy and comfortable experience. Within ten minutes I was called to the license renewal desk (the quickest moving line). The gal who renewed my license was not only pleasant and helpful, she was jolly .  And my transaction was finished in less than ten minutes.

As I was leaving the desk of the gal who helped me, I remembered a stack of Self-Care cards I keep in my purse.  I pulled out the cards, fanned them out, and invited her to pick a message for the day. Surprised and excited, she chose the “Passion” card, suggesting that she resurrect a childhood dream. She smiled and thanked me for the gift. I left her desk with a whole new attitude toward the RMV.

There are plenty of places we go with preconceived ideas of what our experiences will be like: a visit to the doctor, to the dentist, or to the tax accountant, to name a few.  My RMV trip was an important reminder to pay close attention to the “thought habits” associated with these types of events.

Consider the places you need to go this week. Ready to bring a new attitude and expectation with you? I hope so .

Take Action Challenge

Watch and listen for those preconceived notions that might create a less-than-desirable experience. Then, conjure up something new and wonderful and fun!

This week’s video is a beautiful example of what can happen with a new attitude. You can watch it here. Thanks, Mandy!



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Cheryl Richardson

Cheryl Richardson is the author of The New York Times bestselling books, Take Time for Your Life, Life Makeovers, Stand Up for Your Life, The Unmistakable Touch of Grace and her new book The Art of Extreme Self Care. She was the first president of the International Coach Federation and holds one of their first Master Certified Coach credentials.

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