Choosing Nonchalance

I've decided there are some things in life I wish to view very lightly--  Surprising behavior from people I know; definitely the news and many world events...  And so, in this aspiration to be more easy with life, I have been exploring my experiences and realizing: nonchalance requires trust.

To be nonchalant means having an air of ease toward all of life.  It's a wonderful quality and I love even that the definition uses the word "air."  Who doesn't enjoy the experience of taking something challenging or difficult lightly?  Its such a relief!  The flip side of this is taking something tremendous and awesome lightly as well.

Oh--you weren't counting on that?  :)

The Buddha is quick to remind us of not attaching to anything--good or bad.  Or whatever--I know we're moving beyond labels, the point is, that over-identifying or holeding onto anything isn't really helpful in cultivating ease.

There is a fine line between raising our eyebrows and seeing, making adjustments to create future experience and moving on and vehemently pushing something away--thus amplifying it and engaging with it even more. 

There is also a fine line between savoring and clinging.  It all has to do with being in the flow in the moment.  For example the other day my cat, Astra, came up and I was petting her--which she was loving and I was loving--and then she walked away and I was watching her walk and I was lingering in this moment of communion we had just shared and watching her, I was surprised when she leapt to the window having seen a bird.  And I realized: that's it!  She's already moved on, and even if its only for a little bit, I'm still there--back in the past in my emotions with the experience.

I realize whenever I don't respond to life this way--with nonchalance--that it all comes down to some un-free behavior or habit, some limiting idea, some viewpoint out of sync with the source flowing within me, ultimately, with a lack of trust on my part.  Like maybe I won't get another moment like this.  Or somehow not thinking every moment can be one I can entirely enjoy.

This makes me think about washing the dishes or chopping wood--you know, all those Buddhist ideas that remind us that we can enjoy anything if we bring our full presence to it.  It's true you know. 

So I see how nonchalance requires me to consider what exactly DO I believe about life?  Do I see all moments as equal?  Do I expect each moment to be as capable of profound joy as any other?  Is the incredible expansion of channeling a message--is that experience more ripe for happiness then making coffee?  If I am an eternal divine being capable of limitless bliss, am I actually approaching life from a place trusting this to come forth and tuning into it?

Do I truly trust in my own divinity?  In the divine timing, the divine orchestration of life?  Not just as an idea, but am I living-breathing-being with this as my reality? 

Furthermore, do I truly embrace my capacity to create my experience, feeling ultimately so powerful that whatever shows up that I inadvertently created not to my liking can simply be smiled at as a reflection of my own carelessness of focus and re-shaped to my own liking?

This is the subtle meanderings of our newness flowing forth.  We realize that we are indeed capable of anything and although I choose wonder, awe, bliss, inspiration, amazement, love, abundance, clarity, focus, playfulness and many other experiences, I also too choose to have my energy in life flow through choice rather then being triggered by the reflections that catch me off guard and are not really in the vibe I want to experience.

Like Astra who knowingly plays with her reflection in the closet mirrored door, I want to play with the reflections of my state of being--noticing and when I feel inclined, adjusting. 

Choosing nonchalance toward life means not being casual but being filled with faith.  It is an essential ingredient to a peaceful heart.  Only by relating to life with a trusting cooperative approach am I able to experience the diversity of aliveness and my own countless creations with the perpetual eye of a powerful creator and enjoy it all.

Playfulness is a wonderful and essential part of life, a luxury that all of us have access to.  Choosing nonchalance and empowerment for me brings forth a playfulness to life that I find helps me have fun, relax and in this state of relaxation ideas, connections, energy and clarity flow forth in abundance.  I am also learning that I can trust in this--by continually choosing my state of being I remain in a perpetually creative vibration that yields moment after moment of joy.  Wow. 

The value of self-trust is obvious.  Experiencing it deeply is another thing.  I am learnign it may be cultivated--by keeping my word and commitments to myself, which first of all means making commitments with care--considering if I am truly want to make this choice and live it.  The more I keep my word to myself, and live my life making my own happiness and joy the first priority, the greater self-trust I experience. 

How are you at trusting yourself, the Universe, life in general?  And what helps you to feel this feeling, deepen it, identify with it, and literally become it?  If that interests you.  It certainly interests me, and I'd love to hear from you on what your experience is.

Nonchalance for all!  Yes indeed.  Well for anyone that's interested anyway--that's my intention today.  In my world ease is definitely IN.


Nikola 8th July 2011 4:25 am

In... :D


nexagustin 8th July 2011 5:02 am

You've just expressed what I was feeling these days! Trust is always whole and complete.

Thanks for the clear and timely articulation!

Nex :coolsmiley

Trey 8th July 2011 7:28 am

Very nice, your words resonate this morning. I am listening more and more to my internal guidance system and learning to trust it though often I am concerned it is my ego getting in the way of my heart. I guess that is the part of trusting. I am finding that once you start to trust that it resonates deep within your soul and then you know - its subtle mind you, but it is there. My hope is that it becomes more reliable to me as time goes along but that is the essence of trust, right? Now nonchalance, isnt that just the place to be - there is no resistence in nonchalance and to me that is the key. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Love and light to you.

zorro 8th July 2011 9:13 am


I think that you have something here, in your approach to the current spiritual weather forecast. A bit of nonchalance is a good thing right now. So often spiritual lightworkers get intent on "shining the light" and they are going to do it come "hell or high water", because, after all, this is what being a spiritual frontiersman is all about.

If I were a great photographer and I wanted to get the best snapshot of these times, would I take the strobe and shine the light directly on the subject? To a photographer, direct light is rarely interesting, and the finest results come from the "nonchalance" of refracted, oblique light rays. "No", you say. Then what accounts for the breathtaking light exuding from an eclipse, lunar or solar? Did we not have 3 of these in a month. What a reminder on how our light needs to be in these days ahead, or as Christina Lund mentioned in her article, shine the light up and down, not directly. Direct light right now brings out the hard edges in people, and it is time for us to be softbox lighting for a season.

COBALT 8th July 2011 3:20 pm

I agree. After many years of having everything that ever happens blasted in our faces, it is nice to find refuge in calm, focused activities of a creative and loving nature. We are all seated at the banquet table of life. Sometimes it is necessary to excuse ourselves from the table when what is bring served no longer agrees with our discriminating palate.

Michoko 9th July 2011 4:22 am

Thank you Meredith for those inspiring words! I just registered to tell you that your article is very well written and goes right to the point for me.

Oh, and to answer your question: when I want to reconnect to trust and nonchalance, I just look around and remain receptive to signs. Today, the sign was your beautiful text, so thanks again for that! :)

Bahaa 9th July 2011 4:32 am

I decided from the beginning of this year 2011 to choose NonChalance and im lovin it :)

trust being divine , enjoy being divine :)

thank you Meredith for this post


Bahaa 9th July 2011 4:32 am

I decided from the beginning of this year 2011 to choose NonChalance and im lovin it :)

trust being divine , enjoy being divine :)

thank you Meredith for this post


SpiritHeart 9th July 2011 5:39 pm

Dear Meredith,

A wonderful write. YOur article is filled with wise teaching and guidance. If we allow every single thing to bother us, we are putting our well being in labile position. I always used to think that nonchalance involved a "don't care" attitude but your wonderful article has clarified this superbly. To be nonchalant is to embrace or accept a consistent relax state which in turn promotes non-reactivity, trust in the moment and situation as well as heightened awareness. It doesn't mean we don't care about anything, it means we care while in a relaxed, anxiety-free and non-reactive mode.

I truly appreciate this message. IT is of great help. Love xo

K.K. 10th July 2011 8:29 am

I've felt this nonchalance with this Anthony trial that's been on the news lately, I'm so not attached to it at all and find myself somewhat interested in why so many are. I just accept theh situation is what it is. It's so much more bigger than we all realize. Then I thought, maybe there's a vibe of "judgment" going on in the world and that's why people are so caught up in it.

Thanks for the message.