Heaven #3702 You Don’t Need This

Anger is ego’s henchman. Whenever you are angry, know that ego is at play. Anger is a by-product of ego. Whether your anger is justified or not, anger itself is a representative of ego. Anger doesn’t let you think. Anger not only surmounts the heart, it also surmounts the mind. Anger takes over, and you see red. Red is the color of anger. Red-hot is anger’s temperature.

Anger makes you weak. The strongest anger makes you weak. Anger gives off steam. It is hot air. Anger is a waste. You can live longer without anger. You can address issues without anger and get further.

Anger is never justified. Don’t look for examples to prove Me wrong. Anger is never justified because anger is inefficient. You run around with your head cut off when you are angry. You are the headless horseman. When you are angry, you are dissipated.

What makes you red with anger is your ego. It prompts you. It says you are right to be angry, that you have to be angry, that for your self-respect, you have to be angry, that because you are right and someone else is wrong, you have to be angry. Ego says you have to fly off the handle in order to be dignified. Every time. That is ego’s nonsense. You see how ego makes you lose your head.

Whatever anger can accomplish, calmness can accomplish better. Here’s the thing: Anger is not necessary. It is self-destructive. Anger jams up the works. Anger makes a situation worse, not better.

I know it is said that it is good for you to vent. It is good for you recognize your anger and cool off. You don’t have to pretend your anger away. You can cool it. You can then deal with the situation faster, better, without anger shaking its fists.

What makes you angry, beloveds? By and large, someone affronted your ego. By and large, this is the case. By and large, anger comes from your not getting your way. Anger is really insolent. It is insolent to another. You can do better without anger.

Have you seen a mother at the supermarket blow her stack at her two-year old? That’s what you look like when you blow your stack. When you see a two-year old have a tantrum, that’s what you look like too. What do you think makes you different? When you are irate, you are irate, and it is not pretty.

You do not have to accrue your anger. Acknowledge that you have it and say goodbye to it. Then look at the situation you hold responsible for your anger and consider how to resolve the situation. I don’t want you angry, and I also don’t want you unilaterally swallowing your anger. When someone has stepped on your toes, you can bring it up with the one who stepped on your toes in the cool light of day. Without anger, you look at the inciting event, and it is no longer huge. The fire has gone out of it. It is your temporary anger that has gone out.

Remind yourself once again that your anger comes from an inciter within you, and is not really the responsibility of the one or ones you attribute your anger to. They were the stimulus. Their thoughtlessness or their own anger rubbed you the wrong way. Undoubtedly, they have restored to life an old wound, perhaps one forgotten. Heal it now so it does not disrupt your life again. Haven’t you had enough anger? Surely, you don’t want to repeat it.



Tzaddi 14th January 2011 7:26 am

There's more to anger than is immediately apparent. You briefly mentioned "old wounds." In the case of the sexually abused girl, for example, anger as an adult can be the defense mechanism she developed to protect herself against "not being heard" way back when. That said, I'm with you on the waste of energy on ordinary circumstances. Pema Chodrin has a wonderful recording, "Don't Bite The Hook" that was helpful to me many years ago. I still listen to it on occasion, and have my own little mantra about ordinary drive-you-crazy-with-frustration events like losing internet service when I'm doing research online: "Breathe. I don't have to get angry. Just breathe." When I feel calmer, I can phone my service provider and ask for help.

SpiritHeart 14th January 2011 8:10 am

Dear Gloria,

Thank you kindly for sharing this wonderful and enlightening post. You are divinely blessed by being divinely gifted and are a gift to us. Anger is a terrible feeling during and after the experience. The reason we experience anger is usually because the ego is attacked but we have the light within us to catch the Ego in the act of reaction and water it down with a greater understanding. Anger is ridiculous and sometimes we may even act out of character because its red head rears when the Ego appears.

Thank your for the advice, Dear Gloria and Divine God. If our loved ones act out of anger, we can help heal rather than further fuel their anger by reacting. This is exactly the post my heart needed to read.

Lots of LOVE and LIGHT.

Ron Laswell 14th January 2011 10:56 am

So true...
Here is a phenomena about anger which I have been able to control. When someone is angry at me, I remain calm. I listen, and let them vent their frustration. Unfortunately, what I've noticed is that most people don't seem to have this ability. Instead of remaining calm, the other person also takes on the anger, like throwing gas on a fire, and then you have 2 angry people. The intensity escalates, and "someone is going to get hurt". How many times have you heard your parent's say that to you?
As someone who does not like "playing ego games" (high school was REALLY tough), I've also noticed that I have to be very careful about what, and to whom, I am speaking. For some reason, logic is more connected to ego, because I've also noticed that when you talk from the heart, ego-centered people don't like your "irrationality". As a man, I've noticed that men in particular like to be rational and in control, in charge. Talking about heartfelt subjects, to them, makes you appear weak. Nothing could be further from the Truth.

Odesign 15th January 2011 4:29 am

One point of emphasis.
Anger is the most oulawed emotion ever... it has been socially acceptable since the year dot.. especially for women, there is nothing new here.
Indeed anger is a tool of the ego.. but it is also a part of the divine creation. In my experience I have seen that we tend to divide the emotions up into good and bad... bring on the good and avoid the bad. THIS IS A TRAP, IT IS A PRISON. All emotions are there for us to see ourselves and be true to ourselves.. when we use anger in an enlightened way we can dive into the depth of it and come out in bliss.. I have experienced this and it is beautiful.
Therefore I repeat, DO NOT OUTLAW ANGER.. accept all emotions as G_d's creations and embrace them.
Much love.

Odesign 15th January 2011 4:30 am

Sorry for the typo... I mean to say socially unaccepted!


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