Beloved, develop your listening skills. For the most part, you know how to chatter very well. Listen more. Go back to the beginning. Go basic. There are stones you don't have to lift. Talk is one of them. It's good to settle into a modicum of silence. Cover your bases.
Beloved, the way you perceive is modeled from where you sit or from where you stand. You have your own seeing range. You see from your point of view. You may adore something the way it is, or you may have no tolerance for something the way it is depending upon from where you take a look.
Beloved, no longer be overly-concerned with what other people may or may not make of you. What is so all-important about what anyone thinks that makes you feel disheveled with yourself no matter how unkind and unjustified another's random thoughts may be?
Beloved, what you say and what you mean are to be a matched set. Speak truth. Say what you mean or not say it. You are not to wiggle-waggle out of what you say. Be clear with yourself, and be clear with others.
Beloved, everything in the world is relative. This is how the world is. One thing exists contrary to something else. One thing is opposed to one thing or another, and also, dependent upon another for its very own existence. Cold and hot are respective of one another.