I have found that the Key to Forgiveness of myself is not to forgive at all, but to understand. God has made it very clear to me that when I understand the actions of others, when I understand those others themselves (what informs them, what animates them, what motivates them), forgiveness becomes unnecessary. All I needed to do to find self-forgiveness, then, was to understand what informed, what animated, what motivated me when I made the choices and decisions I made, and when I behaved as I did.
Last week in this space I said that a message that for many years spiritual teachers have been sharing—that “you are creating your own reality”—can be a dangerous teaching if it is not fully explained. I also said that there are two things you must know about the “you create your own reality” teaching...
Nothing is evil lest thinking make it so.
Shakespeare wrote that, and this past week the world has been proving it. Again.
There was another big brouhaha this past week -- this time over something that Pope Benedict XVI said recently. Some people have perceived his remarks as an insult to Islam, and thus, as damaging. The Pope's comments were damaging...but not because they were an insult to Islam. His words were, in fact, historically accurate. They were damaging for another reason altogether.
For the past week many Muslims throughout the world have been angrily protesting. I believe that for most of them, this behavior is a learned response. Yet for Highly Evolved Beings -- which we humans say that we are -- anger that leads to violence (and, once again, this anger has) is neither the appropriate response, nor the most beneficial.
I said in the last installment of this Bulletin centering on The Holy Experience that each moment in life is truly holy, because each moment ends. This is not something that everyone knows. Everyone knows that each moment ends, but everyone does not know that for this reason each moment is holy.
Everything is happening for my own good. It could be no other way in the Kingdom of God. This is the startling statement made in The Holy Experience, which I consider to be one of the most important books I have ever written, following my Conversations with God encounter. What CWG led me to at last understand is that our life here is not what I, and many people, thought it was.
Many humans have been told that What God Wants is for sexual union to be experienced only with one’s spouse for the purposes of procreation and the expression of love. One result of this teaching: Millions of people believe that sex may absolutely never be experienced in any way that deliberately prevents conception, and that while sex is wonderful, to experience sex simply for pleasure with no possibility of procreation is against the will of God and, therefore, “unnatural,” immoral, shameful and a giving in to baser instincts.
The combining of pleasure and shame in this construction has produced chronic emotional confusion: wonder, excitement and passion, yet embarrassment, fear and guilt, about sexual desires and experiences.
To begin with, God doesn’t “want us” to experience pain. God doesn’t “want” anything. God experiences GodSelf through us, and knows GodSelf anew in that way. God does not come from “wanting-ness,” but from Total “Havingness.”