Loving When Other's Don't

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

Divine love wants to circulate throughout the entire universe. It wants to flow to you and through you into every area of your lives.

It wants to help you find perfect health and well being, abundance, and beautiful relationships. It wants to gently guide you away from that which hurts and towards that which expands. The Divine lives within all creation, dear ones, as surely as the ocean lives within each wave. It desires harmony within, and that means it desires harmony in your lives.

You were made in the "image and likeness" of the Creator, not in terms of appearance, but rather in terms of essence. The Creator is infinite love and potential and has no form outside of its own creation. You are the "cloak" of the Divine... can you imagine? Within you lives the power that creates universe. Within you lives the potential to observe, and acknowledge any possible reality you wish to experience, and thereby to experience it. Within you lies the power to permit the creator to enjoy its creation... or to deny it the very same.

All pain, all problems, and all sensations of lack stem from restricting the flow love that wants to stream to you and through you.

You block the in-breath of Divine love when you criticize or belittle yourselves, treat yourselves with less than dignity and respect. You block love when you neglect to take care of your body, mind, and soul. You block the in-breath of love when you view yourself as "lesser than" any other aspect of creation, or when you forget to enact healthy boundaries.

You block the out-breath of Divine Love when you judge and criticize, hate, and fear others, when you refuse to forgive, let go, and let live.

Dear ones if you block the flow of love you are not a bad person... You are all simply growing. Every single soul upon your planet earth is learning to open to and share this stream of love that wants to circulate throughout universes. You always have been and always will be nothing less than the source taken form in a unique and beautiful soul. However, your experience of that will be limited until at long last you learn to let love flow.

Treat yourselves with loving kindness. The Divine lives within you. Treat others with kindness and if their behavior does not warrant attention or is unkind, simply withdraw yourself from either the situation, the conversation, or the energy of unkindness.

You need never "dignify the darkness" with your attention. You can choose instead to love the light within all beings. You can lovingly set healthy boundaries and withdraw your energy from those who can't honor them. All souls, no matter how lost, are doing the best they can in any given moment. You are too.

Breathe dear ones, deeply. Feel the Love of the Divine flowing into you bringing you the energy of all that you might want or need. Breathe out, releasing your love into the universe. Bless you for your love and service. You have just allowed the Source to breathe more deeply throughout creation.

God Bless You! We love you so very much.

-- The Angels

Message from Ann

Hi Dear Friends,

I feel as if my entire life has been a journey of learning how to love. It is funny because I would have sworn when I was younger that I was quite good at it... until someone upset me or "made me" feel badly about myself! Back then, I had a tendency to spiral into anger and blame. It was "their fault" that I wasn't feeling loving about them. It was "their fault" that I felt bad about myself.

The angels, very lovingly, would hear none of my excuses.

"Love is yours at all times, Ann," they told me. "Feeling it is an inside job. It isn't dependent upon how anyone else acts. You don't have to like a person to love them. You don't have to have approval or even kindness from the world to love yourself. You'll learn." Being the young hot-head I was at the time, I was convinced they didn't understand what is was like to be human!

Looking back, I find it amusing that I insisted on my right to feel unloved and unloving. How dearly we argue for own pain at times! I did. I know most of us do. And yet, how much more joyous it is to break free of our biological addictions to such pain and to find and feel the love inside.

It is an addiction to feel anger, worry, upset, or fear. We don't usually think of it that way, but try not to feel any of those things when you do and suddenly you realize your conscious mind is not in charge! You can't seem to get a handle on your own thoughts, even if you try.

To this day I still find those "rogue apps" in my mind that seem to obsess over an insensitivity or injustice aimed my way. Now I know how to "disable them!" I pray. I choose love. It simply no longer feels so good to feel bad! I'd rather be loving than "right." I'd rather focus on feeling loved by most of creation, than on those incapable of loving my light. It simply feels better.

So how do we love ourselves and love others in a world that is often unloving... and with brains that are a bit wired and addicted to drama and patterns less than loving?

The short answer is that we train our brains to focus on the love that is in our lives, in small ways first, and then in ever increasing ways.

I'll share a few tips and personal stories below...

Here are some pointers this week to help you keep love in circulation

1. When Someone has been Unloving, Be Kind First to Yourself

It is far too easy to forget we are worthy of love when someone treats us unkindly. We hurt, get angry or defensive, but what we really want is to feel loved again. We can only give this to ourselves at the time. It is important to do so.

At the slightest hint of unkindness, I try to lovingly remedy the situation by talking to the person who is being unkind. If they are incapable of being kind in that moment, I withdraw my energy (and myself) from the situation, as soon as I can. Most often, these days I don't let the behavior of others get to me. When I do, I "nurse my wounds" with some self-loving behavior!

For example, years ago when a boyfriend cheated on me then dumped me (the angels did recommended I not date him!), I went to the local beauty store and told the girls there I needed love. These kind strangers pampered, nurtured me, gave me a free makeover, and more so, support from the universal sisterhood. They reminded me I was worthy of love.

Be kind to yourself, especially when the world isn't. If you don't block off self love, you will quickly be guided back into a more loving reality.

2. Don't withhold Love, Even if You Don't Like a Person

There are a lot of people in this world that you won't resonate with, and therefore may not like. We were never meant to be all the same, nor were we all meant to agree. What is right for one, is not necessarily the right path for another. Although there are some fundamental standards of decent human conduct, not everyone is evolved enough to achieve them.

It is human tendency to withhold love when we don't like someone. Love is misunderstood. Love is thought to be a warm fuzzy feeling. That is human love. That is the feeling that comes from liking someone or liking how you feel when you're with them.

Divine love is different. Divine love acknowledges the light within. So when you don't like someone, it is important to tell yourself. "They too are on this earth, on a journey back to love. They are doing the best they can... even if it is terrible behavior. I will not hate them. I will acknowledge the light within. If I can I'll pray for their upliftment. If I can't I'll withdraw my attention and wish them good growth."

When a powerful, but jealous and angry person sent me psychic attacks for two years, I struggled to find the love for their soul. I prayed and prayed to see them through God's eyes. When I finally was sincere enough,I I learned of their horrific childhood abuse. That didn't mean I wanted more attacks or even anything to do with that person. It just meant that I was able to see them with compassion, and let go of my anger and pain. After all, I wouldn't want to hurt a hurting person by attacking them further, even with my angry energy. It would be like beating an already wounded child.

When someone angers you pray like crazy to see them through God's eyes, to see their innocence, and to see how they too are simply trying to grow.

Take care of yourself and your own well being, by all means, but really strive to change every unloving thought to a prayer for your own joy, and for them to be healed.

3. Choose Love Over and Over

It takes awhile to re-wire the brain and change old addictive habits. The brain gets hooked on emotional dramas that create chemical cocktails in the body, that stimulate the adrenals. It is a similar high that we get from adventures, sex, or any other peak experience. It can take a lot of work to "kick the habit!"

So be gentle with yourself first. Don't criticize or judge yourself when you feel unloving. Instead love yourself. You're heard it many times - I journal, release the feelings that I can't seem to shake, then get back to the love.

I remind myself over and over... I choose love. I choose to love myself and be kind to myself first. From that standpoint, loving others becomes easier.

Keeping love in circulation is the greatest bliss and freedom you will find this lifetime. I have learned to love those who cheat, those who can't or don't love back, even those who are in denial of their own feelings and motivations. I don't like them all, and perhaps never will, but we all can learn to honor the light within – first for ourselves, and then in every other soul on the planet.

As the angels like to say, so truthfully, "Loving just feels better."

Have a blessed week! I love you all!


Nitebloom 4th June 2018 10:34 am

Diggin this

The ever-important self-care, done is a non ego way...can be a challenge to those who want to better things...people...the worlds.....and are the ones who absorb...

LilyWillow 5th June 2018 11:39 am

Thank you so much, Ann! I can always feel the love so much after reading your messages, and I am so thankful for you! God bless :smitten:

spring 11th June 2018 4:48 am

Thank You Ann - your messages never fail to uplift my spirit. You are a truly wonderful Soul Guide, Bless your beautiful shining heart :smitten:


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Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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