Who do you Trust? How do you know?

Hi Dear Friends!

How do you figure out whom or what to trust? Read on... I'll even share a few stories of how I learned the hard way... happily over 20 years ago!

Love you all!

♥ Ann

Message from the Angels

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

In a world with many truths, it is important to examine the questions, "How do you know when to trust?" "Whom do you trust?" This is especially true now that you have access to such a wealth of information and opinions on your Internet social media.

You all want to trust and yet many of you are wary, because you've had that trust betrayed. So how do you stay open to life, open to other human beings, open to hearing the many perspectives, and still honoring of your own beautiful hearts?

The answer dear ones, is to trust yourself, for the voice and energy of the Divine that rises up within you will never give you unloving information or guidance. As we discussed last week, this guidance is always given in the present moment, about the present moment.

There is only one authoritative Source in the universe – one who knows all hearts, all perspectives, and all truths. This is the Source that dwells within you and speaks to you –  in each moment –  through your heart and your feelings. This is the one who nudges you when you see behaviors that don't quite work and says to you, "Beware, this person isn't consistently caring, kind, or honest." This is the source that makes you feel relaxed and at ease when something or someone is good for you and either sick or tense when they are not.

This is the Source that will always tell you what and whom can be trusted in each moment.

So when you decide to trust someone do so because your entire body feels relaxed around them, because they behave consistently, because you feel in your heart of hearts that they and their words resonate with you. If suddenly, someone you've previously trusted no longer feels this way in your body and being, then take note dear ones, that perhaps things have shifted. Trust your own inner knowing and feelings. Trust the energy you feel. Trust your own heart.

One exception would be this – Don't trust your fears! Trust only those feelings that arise somewhat neutrally for they are the waves of your guidance. Fear is simply fear.

Never give anyone or anything the doubt over and above your very own feelings. What is right for another may not be right for you. What is true for another may not be true for you. Trust your inner being in each moment, dear ones, for this is the Voice that will never betray you.

God Bless You! We love you so very much.
-- The Angels

Message from Ann...

Hi Everyone,

I used to trust everyone... without any discernment whatsoever. I talked myself out of any "negative feelings" because I didn't want to be "judgmental." As a result I got myself in some really amazingly intense growth relationships!! Looking back, I could have avoided the pain had I trusted my own feelings...

You see, in my early thirties, I was needy! I had just overturned my conventional life – got divorced, quit my wonderful job in engineering and became "psychic in the window" at a local bookstore. I started dating a man who didn't feel right... but he validated me. His words made me feel good. His inconsistencies and energy did not.

It got worse by the month. He couldn't pay bills, and told me the day before they were due. He traveled to visit other women "for business." I knew things were off. I felt it. Common sense even started to kick in, but I didn't want to see the truth in front of me. I didn't want more change. So I trusted him until things became so painful I had to confront him for his lies. He immediately dumped me. It was a gift. I had been lying to myself.

I'd like to say I was more self-aware back then but I repeated this exercise several times, both in friendships and intimate relationships – even in spite of the angels' loving guidance – until I finally learned to trust myself. It used to be embarrassing to share these stories, but now I have a sense of humor about the past. Lessons have been learned. I trust my feelings impeccably now.

Your feelings can come as a subtle discomfort, a sick feeling, or a sense that something is "off." Sometimes the guidance is blatant. You catch someone acting inconsistently a bit too often. You catch them in subtle lies. Sometimes it is subtle but you sense it.

This guidance isn't given to us to make others wrong, but rather to steer us right. We're given these feelings so we can create the most loving life. If my brain is telling me I should check something out by my heart isn't in it, I turn it down. If my brain is telling me something is unreasonable, but my heart leans in that direction I'll listen to my heart. I don't worry about trusting others or not anymore. I trust my own heart and my own feelings to guide me, as the angels say, one moment at a time.

Here are some pointers this week to help you learn to trust yourself...

1. Trust Your Body to tell you the truth... esp. your gut.

Practice this often. Look at celebrities, strangers, even people you know and ask yourself, "How do I feel when I connect with them?" For example, how does your body feel around the various people you know personally? How does your body feel when you look at a stranger or a celebrity on TV?

Look at, or think of someone briefly, then shut your eyes and pay attention to your body's reaction. Do you feel tense or comfortable, uplifted or tired? Does your gut feel relaxed (good), tight (not good), or neutral?

Your physical reaction tells you if that person is right for you or not. You body simply tells you whether or not the person or situation resonates with you at that moment.

2. Trust your strong "Yes" and "No" feelings

There are times when everything in you says "yes" before you can even think or analyze a situation. I've entrusted some database work to a total stranger because he felt reliable and trustworthy. I didn't even have to think twice to hire him. He's been very helpful and honest.

There are times when everything in you says "No!" This is your soul's way of saying, "Please don't go there!" Had I listened to a "no" in my thirties I would have avoided three years of a painful relationship. Instead I talked myself into it because the gentleman was convinced he was my soul-mate. "Maybe I should be nice and give him a chance," I told to myself. Never mind that nothing felt right and I dreaded our dates! I laugh looking back. "No" means "no" or "not now." In any case, honor it in the moment.

If you don't get a strong yes or no feeling that means the person or situation is neutral - it doesn't matter if you go there or not. There are no huge benefits and no huge drawbacks.

3. If someone or something you've previous trusted feels "off" pay attention...

People and situations change. You grow and change. If something that once felt right suddenly doesn't feel so great anymore, pay attention. Check in with yourself. Ask, "Is this right for me still? What should I do next?" Listen to that.

I once had a close friend. At first we had a great relationship. She and were like sisters, emailing every day and getting together frequently for fun outings. However, the longer I knew her the more I noticed there was something "off." She made almost everyone she knew wrong sooner or later. She showed signs of paranoia. She started to exhibit signs of insecurity around me. I knew something wasn't right but wasn't aware enough, at the time, to speak up and ask.

Sure enough, the pain of her entire childhood came up and out and she aimed it at me. She vacillated back and forth between wanting to be friends and pushing me away. After many attempts to resolve the issues and a great deal of drama, my heart told me a truth I didn't want to hear, but had to trust. Until she was ready to do her own work, this friendship was over. I listened to my soul, cut ties, and returned to a peaceful, happy life. I trusted God would guide her along the right path for her own growth.

We try to tell ourselves that it would be nice if everyone stayed the same and remained predictable, but that isn't real life. We all grow and change. If you trust your signals in the moment you will always know what to do at any given time. I had many beautiful outings and memories from that friendship. It is sad that it ended but God has provided me with many new and more stable individuals in my life.

Trusting yourself isn't always easy. We do get our own signals. We don't always want to hear them. However, if you're willing to trust yourself, to trust God, and to trust your guidance, then you'll always be steered along the path of greatest love, ease, and joy!

Love you all!



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Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. Ann's passion and purpose is teaching others to tap into the power and beauty of their souls, as well as helping people connect with the love and wisdom of their angels.

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