How Will NEW YOU React This Holiday Season?

Dear Ones,

Perhaps you have many memories – both good and bad – of this family holiday season. How will new you react the next few weeks?

Will you wish to be surrounded by those you love? Will you prefer being alone? Will you accept whatever your family or friends wish to create? Or will you create new holiday traditions? All questions pointing to your discomfort with what should or should not happen in your heart during this season. And fears of Christmas or holidays past.

Your society trained you to create feelings you may or may not feel. Love is in the air – love created by society for this season. Even though you are a new being with new beliefs, your societal demanded heart actions are difficult for many of you to ignore.

It is as if the world conspires to insist you open your heart for a few hours of a specific date.

Your heart no longer functions as in the past. You may feel great love for a friend, relative or community based on celebrations. But you could as easily feel little or nothing – and become concerned as a result.

When you review your belief patterns, you most often shift your perceptions to better fit new you. But even new you probably has difficulties switching off expectations or fears when surrounded by those insisting you experience an activity as dictated.

You are no longer of the norm.

But then, you are not so strongly enmeshed in your new being that you can easily brush aside society’s expectations – including new earth friends. Do not most, no matter what new earth stage they are in, continue to wish you happy holidays, prepare special foods and exchange gifts? Indicating that a day or days of your calendar year – a calendar created by your 3D world – has significance for new you.

Indeed this season might have significance, but somewhat different from the past – including healing or ignoring family wounds, creating new rituals or returning to rituals. You cannot be a new being and observe the same rituals with the same feelings as in the past.

Do not be surprised, confused or angry with yourself if you feel little or nothing. If past rituals seem somewhat boring – or if they have different or more significant meanings. You are a new being with new needs.

Such shifts do not make you a callous or bad person, merely a different person. An entity you are learning to love with your entire being – allowing yourself to be as is right for you this holiday season. Does this mean you might skip a family or friend gathering or be bored with something that once warmed your heart? Yes. You are new you.

Perhaps you will revisit rituals to determine if they are of your new being or pieces you no longer wish to continue.

Allow yourself to experience what your being wishes to experience.

What is right for you? That is what you will experience this holiday season.

Must you share your experiences or feelings with others? Must you tell those ‘not in the know’ how ridiculous celebrating a holiday created by humans, but not necessarily felt by any or all, is? Of course not. This is YOUR new you – not anyone else’s. Perhaps your best friend will find joy in rituals you ignore. Perhaps your heart will open on a specific day given that society is stressing love during this season.

It does not matter what others are or are not feeling. All that matters is you know what you are feel/sense/wish to experience.

Perhaps you will wish to experience something entirely different the next holiday season. Such is well and good. There are no rules in this transition – other than learning to love yourself and to express that love with your beacon of light.

This is an easy transition, if you will. Shoulds are minimal. Love, miss, ignore or deny your earth family if you wish. Ignore, glory in or deny this holiday season.

This season is no longer a societal or religious season, it s a personal season of joy. What gives you joy is your only guidance. Not what the media tells you that you should feel. Or what your culture tells you that you should celebrate. Or how your family dictates your celebrations.

It is your personal holiday season. A season created for you, by you and evolving rapidly as new you becomes dominant in your earth being totality .

How will society react to this rebel in you – if that is how you decide to react this holiday season? It does not matter for all of earth are of new earth. Some shining their beacons of light. Some preparing to shine their beacon. And some refusing or frightened to do so for reasons you may never understand. It does not matter for even though you are one, you have a specific role to play.

Think of yourself as a hair cell and your family a nail cell. Do your toenails fall off when you cut your hair? Or do the two separate cell groupings function as unique entities until your being sends a message to the contrary that affects your entire physical body? So it is that this and all following holiday seasons are unique self-exploration adventuress – no different from selecting a new hairstyle.

Perhaps you are concerned your family or friends will not accept new you. Such might be true – especially during this holiday season. But that is not your concern. For they are not tasked with learning how to love you – you are.

So allow yourself to be in all your totality – most often easier in non-holiday seasons than those days and times of societal expectations. So be it. Amen.


Elle W 25th November 2014 9:39 am

Thank you so much for this article. It is truly helpful for me because I almost cannot "do" the holidays this year. I radically changed both Thanksgiving and Christmas with relatives. It is been received with a little confusion, and it does bother me a bit that I can no longer participate in the same way.

Brenda Hoffman 25th November 2014 11:17 am

Hi Elle,
Kudos and more kudos.

Changing traditions within a family is an extremely difficult piece of this transition.

YAY for daring to be you - despite confusion and questions.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Yolanda 25th November 2014 12:06 pm

Thank you Brenda, so marvelous, loving and caring. Uhh You have touched my Heart. I've been a rebel so many Christmas seasons, feeling myself so apart, my family is already used to my attitude, but when reading your supporting words I see how this has really been a way of loving myself more than just being a rebel. This Christmas seasons I will go one step farther and will open my Heart widely on my search of myself and how to love me and respect myself more. Thanks so much Brenda for you share with all of us.

Brenda Hoffman 25th November 2014 12:54 pm

Hi Yolanda,
What a wonderfully brave soul and beacon you are for us all.

Like you, I'm discovering pieces of myself that once felt rebellious are now indicators that I never quite forgot how to love myself. YAY!!!!!!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Emma852013 25th November 2014 1:42 pm

Thank you Dear Brenda for this lovely message.

"they are not tasked with learning how to love you – you are" such a beautiful truth.

Feeling that the parts of the new me doesn't care about the how's and should's, not even the who's, going forth more bolder than before and at the same time more peaceful, this is an amazing journey, more amazing than the older parts of me ever could have dreamed of.

Sending you so much love
As always a pure joy to read your messages :smitten:


Brenda Hoffman 25th November 2014 2:00 pm

Hi Emma,
I'm finding the very same, "this journey is more amazing than the older parts of me ever could have dreamed of."

Thanking for phrasing my thoughts/feelings and those of many others so beautifully!
Blessings, Sparkles and Love,

Rise Above It 25th November 2014 10:49 pm

Your message is exactly what I needed right now, it helped me so much, but not concerning the holidays. I let go of the traditional holiday celebrations a long time ago because I couldn't FEEL it anymore. It all seemed so tired and worn out, so cardboard. When something is over, finished, done for me I cannot force myself to do it anymore so I just let go. I do whatever I feel like doing every holiday. I decline most invitations and spend time alone, or when I accept an invitation I do so because I truly choose to accept and have a wonderful time. I've been struggling with other areas of my life; career, relationships, home. I've felt stuck and frustrated without direction or inspiration for the past several years but I feel I'm getting closer to clarity and a new beginning. When I read your words I felt a release and a birth of clarity, inspiration, and direction. Something in me shifted. I'd reached out numerous times and asked for help, and I received it in the words of your message. Thank you so much!

Peter fox 26th November 2014 5:28 am

Hi Brenda! As you know over here we can't even find one day to give thanks for all the wondrous gifts we receive in each moment of NOW!
So here's a suggestion! Let's forget about "trying to get it right" on one
particular day of the year(unnatural pressure!) and just keep trying to notice
the pure wonder of life both inside and outside of ourselves as much as we
can. If we simply persevere with this heightening of awareness we will
eventually and naturally be giving thanks in every single moment!
Happy Thanksgiving to all! Love...Peter.

Brenda Hoffman 26th November 2014 7:55 am

Dear Rise Above It,
Thank you for sharing your love, light and joy with us.

YAY and kudos and sparkles for you and all others who are finding themselves!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 26th November 2014 7:56 am

Hi Peter,
I'm with you!!!!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Elle W 26th November 2014 9:43 am

Yes it is a difficult piece. So helpful to have some support in the process.

I love your "Blessings, Love and Sparkles". Just lovely. ;-)

Brenda Hoffman 26th November 2014 10:17 am

Hi Elle,
Isn't it wonderful that we're all in this together!
And yes, Blessings, Love and Sparkles!

spiritdiver 26th November 2014 10:42 pm

Brenda: thank you for this. This thanksgiving everything has now set in new shift for me. The patterns of the past have now turned now 360 degrees.. And yes in one sense it feels sad in letting the old go. In another aspect the shoulds of guilt may try to slip in. But in true awareness we can keep the a balance needed while grabbing the rains of change, yet aligned with acceptance guides the navigation of where that takes us without judgement (ours or others) seems to be the lesson to be grateful of. Thank you.

Peter: thank you also for contributing such beautiful sentiments reflecting our new time and emotional awareness. So well said indeed. For me it defines what is of true value/worth and echoes what I am TRUELY thankful for!

"Let's forget about "trying to get it right" on one
particular day of the year(unnatural pressure!) and just keep trying to notice
the pure wonder of life both inside and outside of ourselves as much as we
can. If we simply persevere with this heightening of awareness we will
eventually and naturally be giving thanks in every single moment"

Brenda Hoffman 29th November 2014 6:07 pm

Hi Spiritdiver,
Isn't it interesting to sense both the joy of the new and the sadness of letting go or 'death of the old' at seemingly the same time? A bit like leaving your home town - knowing you don't want to live there anymore, but thinking of the family and friends you're leaving behind.

We're the bridge generation - knowing and/or remembering the old and looking forward to the new - knowing we've moved beyond the old. Brave entities indeed.

And yes, Peter's words are so lovingly beautiful!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,


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Brenda Hoffman

An intuitive since birth, Brenda formalized her channeling skills with her internationally noted book, A Glimpse of Your Future. This prophetic classic describes your role in this transition, as well as answers questions such as why baby boomers were instrumental in introducing the New Age and what earth will be like in the year 4000.

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