Self-Love – The New Earth Corner Stone

Dear Ones,

Let us begin with what you have been pining for for eons – the love and joy of new earth. Yet, you continue to forget or ignore the basic new earth building block – loving yourself.

Of course, you believe you love yourself – and perhaps you do to a certain extent. But do you love your body, your emotions, your very being? Or is that love saturated with, “I’m not smart enough. I’m not thin enough. I’m not healthy enough.” or any other phrase that tells you and others your love is limited to what your culture defines as perfect?

Your self-limitation talk is based on what you learned and accepted in your former 3D world and has little to do with who you are now. 

Such is so for a reason only you know…or at least knew. You are you for reasons you perhaps cannot yet understand – but you will. And you will be amazed once you learn how aptly you designed your being.

Perhaps you are tired of reading or hearing phrases such as, “Love yourself.” But please know that until you truly do – not merely voice that you do, but truly love yourself – you cannot and will not fully assume your new earth role. 

Most of your concerns about defining your new earth role are more about your ego than your true self.

Perhaps you beg to differ. You wish to save the world or help the world move into new earth. A wish no different than any care taking role. It is just on a larger scale.

You cannot save a drowning swimmer if you do not know how to swim. In a similar fashion, you cannot fully play your new earth role if you do not understand and/or accept yourself. 

Perhaps if you wish hard enough, you will lose weight, win money or find a mate. All wishes that tell you that you are not complete in yourself.

This indeed is the time to start fulfilling your dreams. But those dreams need to be clarified. Are they of your 3D ego or of your heart? So it is that you must fully understand yourself before your accept those dreams.

Perhaps such a thought makes you angry. Why must you do anything to accept your dreams/joy? Such is true. But if you accept dreams in your 3D self-contempt being, those dreams will soon not mean anything to you or new earth.

It is time to truly love you – warts and all. You created your being with all the difficulties that have been part of your 3D life for a reason. Allow yourself to accept that. And then allow yourself to accept that you will understand why in the not-too-distant future. 

But for now, focus on loving yourself and the rest will fall into place.

Perhaps you do not know how to better love yourself. You have tried nurturing yourself. You have stopped care taking those who always seem to require care taking, yet you find yourself disliking your body, intelligence level, lack of like-minded friends and on and on.

All indicators that parts of you are not complete or right in your current view.

Stop and ask your inner-being for assistance.

Even though you understand the concept of self-love, you have difficulties practicing it. Ask for assistance from your wise inner-being. Perhaps you wish to use the ‘what’ and ‘why’ concept, “What is it about myself I do not love and why?”  Perhaps you merely wish to ask for assistance and allow that assistance to redirect you.

Just know that it is time for gifts from the Universes for your new being – a being that cannot be fully developed until you love yourself. 

Now there are those who contend that such a promise is yet another carrot in your new earth life. Such is not true.

You will receive the gifts whether you love yourself more completely than is true now. The difference is that those gifts will be ego instead of self-love based.

You do not need to live in a cardboard shack to prove you are worthy of love. Instead, claim your mansion if that is who you are in your new being. For you have denied yourself your true dreams for eons by claiming those things and people your culture decided were right for you.

It is finally time to claim those gifts that are right for you – the gifts you declared important before you entered earth in this lifetime. And only you what those gifts are. So be it. Amen


Anni 29th July 2014 6:55 am

Thank you for this timely reminder Brenda...I only wish I knew, though, what it means to love oneself...I understand what I 'must' do but I still don't know what it means. (If that makes sense..??!)

jcunningham 29th July 2014 9:56 am

Thank you Brenda....just beautiful and right on. We served for so long "doing" things to prove our worth, that this "r/evolution of the individual from the inside out" my inner guidance called it... takes some getting used to. Thank you for focusing the awareness where it must truly be in order to create in the new world.
We look forward (and now ) to the bubbling up of new creations from that place within... from that place of self love (which ultimately is God's love) so wonderfully described with clarity in your article.
Much love to you and all of us on this journey....

LordJesusChrist 29th July 2014 9:10 pm

The Good Force be with you!

Nice posts, Brenda! Thanks for sharing & keep it up!
Ok, you're right, let's begin loving ourselves by first loving God!

Live forever & prosper! Alleluia! Amen!
:smitten: :) :coolsmiley :angel: :thumbs:

Brenda Hoffman 30th July 2014 7:32 pm

Hi Anni,
Your question so makes sense. Thank you!

I'm not certain if it has the same meaning for everyone but I've recently discovered it means to me that I'm as worthy and important as everyone I've care taken in this life and others. That "I count" too and if someone doesn't value me for whatever reason, I have the right and the need to tell them so - to communicate that - or to move on to someone who does.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 31st July 2014 8:40 am

Hi Janeway,
I don't know if the same is true for you but I'm discovering so many ways in which I negated myself. What an fascinating study in love for us.

And YES - love to us all on our amazing journey.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 31st July 2014 8:42 am

Hello LordJesusChrist,
Thank you!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 31st July 2014 8:44 am

Hi NikosVg,
I so agree that loving/accepting yourself is a blessing. And that doing often takes concentration - for now at least. Thank you.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

jcunningham 31st July 2014 9:05 am

Yes, isn't it seems that each time a new level of "aha" comes, and is integrating, I'm pulsed from that new place, to see/feel what no longer resonates within... to perceive and dissolve how I've negated self. A continuing spiral....
Much love and thanks again for the clarity of your wonderful articles.

Tiff 31st July 2014 6:15 pm

Beautifully encouraging, Brenda. I needed this. Infinite thanks to you. :thumbs: :smitten:

Tiff 31st July 2014 6:15 pm

Beautifully encouraging, Brenda. I needed this. Infinite thanks to you. :thumbs: :smitten:

Brenda Hoffman 1st August 2014 1:59 pm

Hi Tiff,
You're not alone Tiff. This dramatic shift from fear to love reads so easily, but the implementation sometimes requires concentration and practice. At least it does for me!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,


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An intuitive since birth, Brenda formalized her channeling skills with her internationally noted book, A Glimpse of Your Future. This prophetic classic describes your role in this transition, as well as answers questions such as why baby boomers were instrumental in introducing the New Age and what earth will be like in the year 4000.

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