Why You’re Feeling Lonely

Dear Ones,

Even though connecting with others via the Internet is wonderful, such is not like touching one another physically. So it is you are lonely for physical connections – whether of a romantic nature or not.

Your nerves seem to cry out for physical contact. Yet, you do not feel like making the effort to expand your network of friends.

Almost everything seems as if it is too much effort. You once relished the thought of interacting with others. Now it feels like work to move outside your comfort zone.

You left family and friends behind – those you once depended upon to open your heart, your mind or your physical being.

Now you want it all – not in segments or divisions of heart, body, mind – but all in those with whom you interact. And you want it now.

You do not wish to attend parties or other events where you used to connect, for such gatherings now seem hollow. Yet, you do not feel that there are enough others in your corner – as you once did. Even though you are lonely, you cannot conjure up the energy to satisfy that feeling.

How is it possible for you to increase your physical friendship base if you have difficulties leaving your comfort zone? Should you push yourself to do so? Are you doing something wrong? Are you the only one who is lonely? No, no and no.

For indeed, all aspects of new you are designed to be easy and effortless. Work of any kind is no longer part of your daily routine. The difference is you have no framework for meeting others of like-mind and like-action. So how and what are you to do?

Your sense of loneliness has expanded because you wish to have someone – anyone – confirm that you are on the right path, that this transition is not a fairy tale. You never will discover that someone. For indeed, societal dictates of all doing the same thing in a similar time no longer apply.

Even though you can share your experiences with others, no two entities will ever again have the same experiences. This is where your creativity and self-love come into play.

It is as if while searching for a cure of a major disease, all are using different techniques. So discussing findings is more likely to result in dissention than forward thinking. That is not to say you can not share what you have learned, but that not everyone will be that interested for all are on a different paths leading to the same place.

All paths are valid and will not deviate with historical perspective or personal disdain. Your path is your path – and absolutely correct. But no one will ever create the very same path as you for all are combining different segments with different knowledge bases.

You no longer are depending on the histories of earth. Instead, you are all combining the histories of many planets and experiences within those planets.

Of course, there are what you label the Akashic records. But your Akashic records only record your history. You are not privy to everyone’s history for the very reason that you do not yet have the capacity to maintain or even scan the number of records that contain all the histories of all entities of all earth and beyond. You only have the capacity to know you. Which you are discovering one loving experience at a time.

This is your time to make friends with you. But because that thought is so foreign to you of earth, you feel lonely. You will eventually meet those who fulfill some of your physical needs, but not yet, not now. Now it is time to fall in love with you.

Such a thought makes many of you angry. For you do not believe you are that exciting or wise. You are lonely for someone, anyone to share your experiences with. That someone is now you.

For indeed, part of falling in love with yourself is the ability to trust that all you do is correct. Including not wishing to be among large groups or perhaps even one other person. Interacting with multitudes is what you knew in 3D but has little validity for new you now.

First you accepted your new you CEO role. Then you visited your various segments to clear any pieces that might negate your forward movement to new you. Now you are exploring your various segments, including your physical body, to fully know you in all your glory – to fall in love with you.

Then and only then, will new friends fall into place easily and effortlessly. For your beacon of self-loving light will be so bright that it will be impossible for ‘ships to pass in the night.’ And the same will be true for those with whom you connect. For both of you will be fully comfortable with and accepting of yourselves.

Loving enough for the two of you to create a new whole or third connection stronger than either of you individually, yet does not detract from either. Something you do not quite understand, but you will. Just as you did not quite understand how to love yourself when you started doing so.

You are not lonely, you are merely learning how fun and exciting you are. A new thought process, experience indeed. Allow yourself to grow into the totality that is the light of you. And allow the same for others. So be it. Amen.


Angelika Lina 4th August 2015 7:31 am

I think you've read my mind Brenda,
so much of this article relates to my life right now. I even understand that I'm supposed to love myself before more magic will happen, but, oh my, it's not an easy journey. It seems as though everyone else is having a great time, getting on with each other and mostly I feel like I'm on the outside looking in :)

Pambailey 4th August 2015 9:10 am

WOW this is me! Thank you Brenda for this message. And thank you too Angelika, this is exactly how I feel. The last few weeks I've really had some very good times with myself, enjoying my "alone" time again. I started to like myself more and more and it felt soooo good! But this weekend, the sadness kicked in and I feel very deep sadness. Thank you for the message ? ? ? Love and blessings ? ? ? Pam

cyndy 4th August 2015 11:19 am

For me the loneliness is about achieving wholeness. It has reared its head as it is not usually this dominant in my life. Just yesterday I did the bonus Day 22 of the Oprah-Chopra meditation and these words come from that. " Wholeness is the experiential reality that your life is inextricably connected to everyone and everything in the universe. There are no sharp boundaries in your consciousness that separates you from universal consciousness. YOU ARE that WHOLENESS. Separation is an illusion. The self is timeless awareness. We become healed through our wholeness. Holiness, wholeness, health and healing are all derived from the same root word. It does not mean you forget who you are as an individual. The individual stops feeling separated, isolated and alone. This happens automatically when you remember who you really are."
Thank you Brenda for opening this treasure chest at this time. The treasure chest of our wholeness.
So here's a toast for getting to the true nature of self. " The true nature of myself is the wholeness of the Universe."
May ALL be blessed with this journey.

Tiff 4th August 2015 12:06 pm

Perfect timing. Thank you, Brenda. Big hugs.

Brenda Hoffman 4th August 2015 3:37 pm

Dear Angelika,
You're definitely not the only one feeling as if this channel was written for you - if the number of views and responses I've received in two days are any indication!

I so agree that this learning to love yourself is not easy. It should be. It reads as if it's easy, but so many, including me, are having to remember to do so almost daily. After eons of 3D and the heaviness of earth in the past, learning/remembering to love ourselves is a process.

Those you believe are happy may be just accepting that new us is a process. That's been my stance for months.

Some of the process is fun. Some is just remembering. And other pieces are not necessarily pleasant. But I think of it in the unpleasant times as having to go through a fever before an illness subsides - not pleasant, but necessary in some cases.

Most importantly, you're not alone in your feelings or concerns. We're all in this together - the good times and the not so good times.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 4th August 2015 3:42 pm

Hi Pam,
I haven't felt the sadness, but most certainly less need to be around others.

As you can tell from Angelika and my response, you're definitely not alone. Others are feeling the sadness and lonliness - all the while learning to love themselves. A tricky process while of earth. Courageous beings that we are - moving beyond all 3D expectations - societal and personal!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 4th August 2015 3:45 pm

Hi Cyndy,
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!! "The individual stops feeling separated, isolated and alone. This happens when you remember who you really are." Thank you Cyndy, Oprah and Chopra!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 4th August 2015 3:46 pm

Hi Tif,
Great! Hugs back at ya!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

debs go lightly 4th August 2015 4:55 pm

Hi Brenda, this is a very interesting message! I wonder about the 'physical' longings/changes and feelings of loneliness. Lately I am inhabiting my body differently, I feel more present, more at ease somehow (even with the intense energies, aches and pains!). My awareness of 'physicality' has shifted. In other dimensions I am beginning to feel things in a more tactile way. I can pick up a stone and it feels like a stone (in a human sense). Guidance now places a hand on my shoulder and I can feel it. I had an angry outburst last night expressing frustration at the illusion of separation this 'physical' human form creates. This outburst cleared the way for more awareness. The awareness of self beyond human is a huge adjustment.
A sense of loneliness is no surprise! I remember who I am, but stll learning how to access that which I remember.

Thank you :) much love and light, Debs.

Brenda Hoffman 4th August 2015 6:24 pm

Hi Debs,
I haven't felt lonely. The physical surprise for me this week is I now know how to swim!

Athletics isn't my strong suite so I assumed I wouldn't ever learn to swim after I sank in the ocean about 30 years ago. But with my patient husband's help since August 1, I can SWIM! I even can do so with a snorkel.

Absolutely amazing to me and my husband. So instead of feeling lonely, I've been extremely proud of my new physical being.

Isn't it fascinating how we're evolving in our unique way? All of us courageous, risk-taking, never giving up scout masters for those who wish to follow.
Much Love, Many Blessings and Tons of Sparkles,

OOoosa 4th August 2015 7:36 pm

Thank you for this post. I like many others feel as though you were writing about me. I think I am becoming a hermit. I love my alone time. Sometimes I do feel lonely but mostly I love learning how to love myself and spending time with me - uncovering all the layers of knowledge - it's fascinating. I am grateful to learn I am not on my own in this and there are others. I know I am on the edge of something new and different that I've been waiting on a very long time. Much love.

debs go lightly 4th August 2015 9:48 pm

Brenda that's fantastic! a lovely discovery, how wonderful!

I so love the richness of all our experiences in this great tapestry of light.
I get an image of us all as buds growing and growing and suddenly bursting open, little lights winking on everywhere.
Not loneliness but just growing pains, and then, TA DA! a burst of light!

Much love to you Brenda the swimmer - TA DA!! with sparkly water all around you :) xx

IAMPrecious 5th August 2015 11:32 am

Thank you soooo! much for this ... I have felt the most intense sadness ... and lonliness for the past weeks ... so much so ...at time it literally takes my breath away ... I am seeing the decades of abuse ... some of it so subtle ... the obvious physical abuse ... can be called out quickly what it is ... but the not so obvious ... this is the stuff coming up for clearing ... healing ...

Decades of subtle abuse ... you mustn't feel that way ... you shouldn't ... you should ... one upon the other ... layer after layer of other people criteria ... their criteria of how I should act ... in order to make them comfortable ...

It was lonely then ... empty ... but I pretended my way through thinking there might be a pay-off ... but nope ... not even a free f'n toaster! Zip ... and now the void ...

All the promises promised ... happily ever after ... I will never leave you ... I will love you forever ... I'm pissed off too ... because they did leave ... and they didn't love me at all ... let alone forever ...

Yup! Lonely ... empty ... now ... can I turn to the one who got me through

gretchendreisbach 5th August 2015 2:03 pm

Hello Everyone!

A super FUN song that could be heard, coming from out of my very solitary studio, since back in day--(possibly originally on cassette I wonder?)
is : Me, Myself, and I, by De La Soul.

Love, Gretchen Grace Dreisbach who LOVES herself SO MUCH and still believes that this journey would be SO much funner to have others to play with! :)

Our personal Curly Q's had to be Authentically/Individually formed first, in order for Unity Consciousness to be achieved…I understand...

and THEN we will FINALLY be able to form our New Earth Communities…Universes, surely Heaven includes friends, Divine Complements, and Community?

debs go lightly 6th August 2015 2:00 am

Hi lovely Gretchen :) thanks for the brilliant Me Myself I burst of joy at my breakfast table today - YEAH! haven't heard that for years :)
Keep that studio humming along, all good things are on the way!
Much love light and joy from Debs xxx

Brenda Hoffman 6th August 2015 9:41 am

Hi OOoosa,
YAY OOoosa for daring to love yourself despite not knowing so many others were feeling similar shifts and needs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We're doing it step-by-step, most importantly for now - loving ourselves. Thank you so much for sharing and shining your beacon for us all!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 6th August 2015 9:45 am

Hi Debs,
I loved your vision of buds bursting open to little lights winking on everywhere. Christmas and all sparkly holidays throughout the year!! And your TA DA made me laugh out loud. I forgot that great expression.

Yup - I can swim!!!! A big TA DA for me!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 6th August 2015 9:51 am

Dear IAMPrecious,
My story is similar. My favorite line was, "only your family loves you." I wasn't afraid of anyone, except family members. But like you, it took years for me to uncover that truth. And like you, I put the pieces together to realize how strong I was.

I'm so extremely proud of your bravery. It seems as if many of those who are daring to be part of New Earth have worked/moved through many pieces of not only this life, but many others. Moving from victim and caretaker to FREE. And so you have and so you are. YES!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 6th August 2015 9:56 am

Hi Gretchen,
That's most definitely my current take on the process too.

In the Old Age we did the exact opposite by doing whatever seemed necessary to find friends and create communities.

Now we find ourselves first and then build friendships and community.

The key for us is that this is a condensed transition. So we don't have decades - we're expanding at warp speed. And so it is.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

cyndy 6th August 2015 11:35 am

I did get into a little of the lonely ,that felt achey and like a longing." Longing for" energy in me can be turned around with remembering/feeling the wholeness and totality of me.
The love word is used here, but I substitute any word in place of the love word when I find myself longing for something. Words substituted can be fun, play, even money as I consider money energy.

Love is not an emptiness longing to be filled.
It is a fullness pressing to be released.---J.Kennedy Shultz
In me, getting back to my totality then I become the fullness pressing to be released. So, if it is fun, fun might just come bubbling out!!!
We each have such specific and I might add interesting vibrations (CURLY Q's) of us ,that it seems that my heart and soul are collaborating in this new design of who/what might be foundationally compatible in this new world, this new human experience. I am quite clear about not transforming through relationship anymore as we did in 3d. Transforming can be more direct instead of through relationships or the body.
AND that leads us to what enhances our lives.

cyndy 6th August 2015 11:43 am

That leads us to what enhances our lives, what makes us feel alive and what gives us pause.
As Gretchen Grace said "Friends, Divine complements and community." I am the fullness of that ,pressing to be released. AND Gretchen Grace thank you for the Curly Q's as that word brought an immediate smile to my face.
And thanks to Debs for the TA DA.
So off I go again, feeling my fullness with Curley Q's and TA DA's and may we all exchange hokey pokey hugs. The kind that turn your life around!

gretchendreisbach 6th August 2015 11:47 am

Your Welcome Debs and Gratitude for dancing with me through the ethers!




Congratulations on finding your JOY with swimming dear Brenda!
I have so too been intending to return to swimming as my "second half of life" experience!


Gretchen Grace

gretchendreisbach 6th August 2015 12:18 pm

You are Welcome Cyndy!



Gretchen Grace!

debs go lightly 6th August 2015 3:54 pm

Hi Cyndy, Thank you! 'Love is not an emptiness longing to be filled, it is a fullness pressing to be released'.
Perfect!! Big hokey pokey hug :) Debs.

p.s. this New Zealander had to google curly Qs.......

Love to all :)

Brenda Hoffman 8th August 2015 3:04 pm

Hi Cyndy,
Love your curly qs. And your statement, "...not transforming through relationship anymore as we did in 3d. Transforming can be more direct instead through relationships or the body." EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 8th August 2015 3:06 pm

Hey Cyndy,
And love and absolutely have to adopt "Hokey Pokey" hugs. Hokey Pokey hugs perfectly fits my being right now. Hokey Pokey hugs to you and all on this wonderful 8/8/8 day!!!!
Love Brenda

Brenda Hoffman 8th August 2015 3:09 pm

Hi Gretchen,
I can swim for the first time in my life. So being in the water has never been that interesting to me - until now. Talk about physical transformation and a new sense of joy!!! As Cyndy so aptly put it - Hokey Pokey hugs to you and all!
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 8th August 2015 3:11 pm

Whoa Debs love your phrase also, "Love is not an emptiness longing to be filled, it is a fullness pressing to be released!" Perfect. Thank you.
Blessings, Love and Sparkles,
PS So Hokey Pokey is universal?? Even better. Hokey Pokey hugs and dances (Gretchen are you there?) for all!

debs go lightly 8th August 2015 5:12 pm

Hi Brenda :) I would love to take the credit but I was quoting Cyndy's phrase, which is totally perfect!

Hokey Pokey... in NZ it's a yummo ice cream flavour - vanilla ice cream with crunchy chunks of golden hokey pokey (honeycomb) toffee. Mmmmm. Or a bar of the stuff covered in chocolate. Again, mmmm. Also the dance (you put your left foot in, you put your left foot out, etc), which we called the hokey tokey! Either way, a hokey pokey hug sounds like a good thing to me :) xxx

And I'm writing this looking out the kitchen window at the snow and eating porridge, it's very winter wonderland here!

Sparkly hokey pokey hugs! love Debs.

gretchendreisbach 8th August 2015 5:18 pm

Yes Beloved Brenda I AM here!

Just got back from walking my Beloved Mississippi River friend on this MOST GLORIOUS 8-8-8 Galactic Portal Day!

We REALLY did make it everyone!

Doubting voice keeps trying to creep in but gets SMACKED BY MY LIGHT! :)






Gratitude friends, for holding my hand through these excruciating challenges, I LOVE YOU ALL more than words can say.

Gretchen Grace Dreisbach



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An intuitive since birth, Brenda formalized her channeling skills with her internationally noted book, A Glimpse of Your Future. This prophetic classic describes your role in this transition, as well as answers questions such as why baby boomers were instrumental in introducing the New Age and what earth will be like in the year 4000.

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