You’re Not a Child Asking for an Allowance

Dear Ones,

You have channeled, meditated and done whatever you felt necessary to achieve what you want – whether a new home or an improved relationship. We could respond with the answer you have heard for so long – “Have patience.” But we will not for you are more mature than when we started discussing New Age shifts.

You are no longer children of the Universes, you are adults.

You are now able to accept and expect specific deadlines.

As a child, your parents told you when to expect Christmas. Perhaps they even helped you cross off days on a calendar. But without their help, you did not know when to celebrate Christmas. Adults kept track of time. So it is for you now.

You want to know when the life you dream of will arrive. You are tired, angry – and you want answers. Think of yourselves as having passed your due date in the 9th month of pregnancy. Few pregnant women find that situation humorous – or acceptable. So it is for you now.

If you remember, you first shift spiritually, then emotionally and finally, physically in all aspects of this transition. We have been discussing your physical shifts for a few weeks now. So you are most likely past your due date.

What can you do to force the issue, to create your dreams? There is little to do other than wait as is true for the birth of a baby.

The difference is what has happened to you before this wait period. Previously, you depended on angels, guides, animal totems or any outer-directed format to create. You were comfortable completing whatever exercise or program “they” told you was appropriate. You emphasized color therapy one day, a reading the next, meditation the next and after many such activities, your dream was either realized or you had outgrown it.

The scenario is now different. Even though you can follow whatever anyone tells you to do, that will not produce the reward you are expecting. In truth, such efforts are counterproductive. A bit like copying someone’s homework only to fail the test because you did not understand the coursework.

How did your dreams materialize if you created on the basis of what others told you? Quite frankly, the results were haphazard. If you tried hard enough and long enough, your dreams would materialize – maybe not quite as you wished but close enough for you to declare that you could manifest whatever you wanted.

You created by accident and not intention. If you try enough exercises, one will eventually work. But to do so takes so much time and effort – and escalates your discomfort with your current life.

Now it is as if you have a billion dollars in the bank and you can spend that money any way you like. You are no longer a child asking for an allowance, you are the adult in control of the checkbook.

What good is a checkbook without the rewards attached to spending those resources?

This is the point of our discussion. You have unlimited funds in your checking account. And only your signature will open those funds. Your signature consists of whatever piece or activity feels right for you. It is no longer appropriate for someone to tell you how to access those funds. No one is more wise than you. It is time to test your creation skills. Right here. Right now. You are an adult who knows when Christmas is, but who also can change that date on a whim.

There are no exercises more powerful than the ones you create or are attracted to. There is no one outside of you who knows what you need better than you.

Perhaps you are in a crisis mode and nothing is changing. What should you do? Who should you see? Listen to your inner-being. The answers are within you – as are all the manifestation skills you can imagine.

Perhaps you have asked for assistance repeatedly to no avail. Have you asked yourself why? By continuing the belief that you only receive gifts when you have done something special or find the right guru, you are maintaining your Old Age belief of hard work and little play.

Your inner-being is part of you, just as is true for your toenails. Your higher self, inner-being or soul are not greater than you. You are as important to the totality of your being as any other cell, as any other part.

Do you need two legs? You can always purchase prosthetic legs, but they would not function as well as the legs you lost.

Even though you do not think much about your legs, you would miss them if they were not there. Or you would not feel right if you had a knee injury or an ingrown toenail. Your physical being supports you in so many ways without requests or complaints. When it does complain or request help, you try to provide what it needs.

Your higher self, soul, and inner-being are no different. If you expect them to reward you for just being you, think how often you do the same for your limbs that work so diligently with little or no complaint.

Let us clarify. You are an extremely important element of your soul, higher self and inner-being. But your belief patterns have encouraged you to treat those parts of your being as gods or somehow better and more advanced than you. You are them. And they are you.

Allow that thought to become firmly entrenched in your belief patterns. Then know without a doubt that you have the right to request whatever support you need to feel comfortable. Is that not what an ingrown toenail does? “I need new shoes.” “I need a podiatrist.” You listen and follow through – do you not? So it is for you.

You are uncomfortable. Expect your higher self, inner-being and soul to direct you to the place that alleviates your discomfort for you are as an important element as any other of your totality. You no longer need to feel like a child waiting for his parent to allow him to celebrate Christmas.

You are a full adult in the vibrations of your soul, higher self and inner-being. Believe that. Know that. And act accordingly. Does that mean you will scream for attention. Perhaps. But more likely, you will merely shift your perception from that of a child hoping her parent will provide what she needs to an adult who knows they can create what they want. So be it. Amen.


Brenda Hoffman 20th February 2013 9:35 am

Dear Nikos,
"Take Your Power Back" is such an appropriate phrase right now. Kind of like the Black Power movement of the 60s in the US only I suppose we could call it Personal Power or a Love Power movement.
Blessings and Sparkles,

Baloneypants 20th February 2013 12:00 pm

Indeed, I am sleeping round the clock, and am quite angry and empty for no reason, especially today. It's been like this for almost a year, but since December it's been stronger than all of last year combined. This 'cosmic pregnancy' is indeed past due, and no, it's not funny at all! I have been angrily cursing the Universe and my higher self lately, I hope I can apologize to them (me) later.

I can see progress, especially when I go outside, and see everything is brighter and more luminous, sharper, more vibrant, etc. week by week this is getting more intense. This is not subtle at all, I assume this is what a higher dimension looks like? It's very beautiful! I wonder who else is experiencing this?

I will continue to meditate, work on relaxation and focus, and clearing thoughts, as best I can. But as each new day comes, the million dollar question remains: when does it end? What will that even look, or feel like? Another month, another 3? Oh dear. I don't even know if I can do that. Blessings and good luck to all. :)

Brenda Hoffman 20th February 2013 2:16 pm

Dear Baloneypants,
I am so sorry.

I don't know when these major shifts will end - I just know that I've channeled many times that we don't have decades to complete this transition as has been true for other personal transitions. I haven't had a cold or the flu in years - but I have a cold now and I know that I do because I didn't listen to my body when it wanted to rest. I'm exhausted also and have heard the same from others.

Just a thought - but what if you don't do anything - meditation, etc for awhile. Maybe your transition work is getting in the way of your playtime!
Blessings and Sparkles,

kay 20th February 2013 7:07 pm

I just love this back and forth and in and out and awesome confusion that we're all experiencing. We're going through this together. I am unspeakably grateful that we're sharing this. I need you guys to keep saying what you're going through. You're my family.

Today's been a day. maybe a turning point of a day. I've just kept saying no. but thank you. but no. and thank you

they don't know how hard this in-the-flesh experience is. they love us, they are us, but for the most part they don't know first-hand how difficult this 3D experience is. so i'm just saying no and no and no over and over again. and they're listening and they just keep loving me and listening and I'm okay with no firm foundation

more than okay with it.

my english teacher grammar all shot to hell

sweet evening to all of you

kay 20th February 2013 7:27 pm

But, Brenda, it occurs to me now that I didn't say how grateful I am for you. I guess I just included you in the "you guys" and the "thank you for sharing" comments. But your effort to keep the communication going is huge, and I see how beautiful you are, and I am so grateful that you have the courage to be yourself.

Lucy868 20th February 2013 8:02 pm

Hi Brenda,

I was just wondering if the "Unseens" have offered any 3D practical advice for making changes, getting new jobs, obtaining money/financing, and in general - just honoring our 3D obligations. The "Unseens" tend to communicate in abstract, non-linear 5D constructs. I've noticed throughout your posts that you've been wonderful about acknowleding the fact that we still have 3D obligations. It's an odd thing to have one foot in 3D and the other in 5D. Would appreciate any thoughts you have on this. Thanks.

KT 21st February 2013 7:43 am

Dear Brenda,

Thank you, Thank You ,Thank you, this post was exactly what I have been asking for in prayer, I am well over my due date and am getting frustrated the usual meditations, music etc that would have helped me processing these emotions do not appeal to me and actually the way I have lived my spiritual path seems that I have outgrown it and yes it definitely feels to me that I have graduated from a child to an authentic adult where I have the power and dominion over myself and life, I thank you for articulating what have I have been feeling for some months, it certainly feels like we have climbed to the summit and are now resting and purveying all we see and waiting for the right feeling to move onwards, all the old ways of being do not seem relevant or appropriate now......

Brenda Hoffman 21st February 2013 10:30 am

Dear Nikos,
That's absolutely wonderful that you're seeing more beauty.

My idea of a different dimension is also harmony and therefore, beauty plus so many capabilities that we can't even begin to understand. We'll just flow in life and dimensions.

Don't worry about how you feel or know this - guessing you're getting many more pieces of information about this transition than you give yourself credit.
Blessings and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 21st February 2013 10:37 am

Dear Kay,
I love how we're all in this together also. Can you imagine how frightening it would be if we were experiencing this transition in isolation?

And I love how you're taking control of your transition - it is your transition after all and yes, doing so while in the 3D world is not at all easy.

We Lightworkers, Starseeds and whatever other title is appropriate are one courageous group. I often think of us as jumping in boats declaring that we're going to discover the new world without even knowing where that is or that it exists.

"You Guys" works perfectly for me! We are family - and probably have been for eons.
Blessings and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 21st February 2013 10:50 am

Dear Lucy,
No - I don't get much info about managing our 3D lives while transitioning into different dimensions. I suppose we could equate it to trying to understand how falling in love will feel like until we experience it. We're attracted to someone in high school and certain that is love until we find love as an adult and know the difference. All I know is that we're trying to balance two worlds and often that is difficult.

As I write this I "hear" that the balancing will become easier as we move into our new earth/Lightworker personna and finally there won't be any need for balancing for we'll be the beacons others will wish to emulate. Ah now I think I understand. When the first group of young people declared the Vietnam war inappropriate, they were considered radicals, trouble makers. By the time the war ended, those who believed in the war were considered odd. Not that being a Lightworker makes you right, but that feelings and beliefs are shifting so rapidly you will be in the majority soon.
Blessings and Sparkles,

Brenda Hoffman 21st February 2013 10:52 am

Dear KT,
Blessings and Sparkles,

COBALT 21st February 2013 10:55 am


I trust that your clearing is past you. I spent two weeks going through it. I was given the word " womb" over and over. I finally realized what it meant.
Wisdom Of My Body. This was just the humor I needed, and it worked.

Happy days! :smitten:

Brenda Hoffman 21st February 2013 1:41 pm

Dear Cobalt,
Even though items still pop up (darn!), the majority of my clearing happened nearly 20 years ago. Not a pleasant time, but I ended up liking myself so much better after that.

I absolutely love womb - Wisdom of My Body. A t-shirt or banner slogan for us all!
Blessings and Sparkles,

1merlin1 21st February 2013 6:47 pm

I read your article twice because I can so relate to what you're saying. It's a very doubt-filled & anxious time for so many, and I completely relate to the frustration, pain, anger & the feeling of not being heard. I feel "wrung-out" like a wash-cloth that's been through too much.

In frustration, my guides advice was to block out everything and "just breathe"....when I finally started to relax around this energy, things have actually started getting better! "Can it really be that simple?" I asked out loud! The answer was a resounding "yes!" Energy can sometimes manifest in a "push-pull" dynamic that is frustrating when we're pushing...the more we push, the more elusive the results. Now that I, hopefully, am catching the ebb & flow of this new energy, it'll be easier to relax in it.

Brenda Hoffman 21st February 2013 11:10 pm

Dear Merlin,
YES!!!! It is that easy.

I've channeled it. I've experienced it. And yet, sometimes I forget.

This transition from pain to love is not as easy as it seems. We're used to everything being so complicated - we forget easy...and love.
Blessings and Sparkles,

Baloneypants 23rd February 2013 9:37 am

Nikos, I'm glad I'm not the only one seeing the lighter, sharper, and more luminous world. I explain to people what I'm seeing sometimes, and they always look at me like I'm crazy.

I also feel like there will be one final energy surge to signify the end of this process, but I'm not certain about the feeling. I've experienced dozens of these surges since 11:11. But I have most certainly been given correct information through 'uncertain' feelings before, more times than I am likely aware of, as Brenda says. So heres hoping that the moment is soon.

Love to all :)

Brenda Hoffman 23rd February 2013 5:09 pm

Dear Nikos and Baloneypants,
You're not odd - you're right on track. Light bearers and Wayshowers for us all.

Baloneypants I love your sense that there will be one final and probably obvious final energy surge - kind of like graduation. I wonder if we will miss the excitement and challenge of energy surges once they stop?
Blessings and Sparkles,


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An intuitive since birth, Brenda formalized her channeling skills with her internationally noted book, A Glimpse of Your Future. This prophetic classic describes your role in this transition, as well as answers questions such as why baby boomers were instrumental in introducing the New Age and what earth will be like in the year 4000.

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