Have Your Own Back

Sometimes we gain wisdom from the most unexpected places. Last week I had my buttons pushed when I stumbled upon an exchange on Facebook about my work. Two women were discussing the release of my new audio program, “Self Care for the Wisdom Years,” and they made a few assumptions about me that were incorrect. And they weren’t very kind about it. 

Normally I brush those things off. I’ve been at this a long time and I know better than to take things personally. But, I’m human, and having birthed a new baby I naturally felt more vulnerable and in that state it was easy to overreact. 

After reading their comments, I felt compelled to reply and correct their mistakes (compelled being the operative word here). Fortunately, because I was upset, I knew better than to do so. Instead, I walked away from the computer, made myself some lunch, and turned on an episode of Madam Secretary – a favorite TV series.

About halfway into the episode, the character who plays the Secretary’s Communication Director was anxiously trying to get the Secretary to respond to a reporter who was maligning her work. “No,” said the Secretary repeatedly. “I’m not going to address it.” When pushed further, she exclaimed firmly:

“I am not going to respond. If you feed the beast, it just gets hungrier.”

Upon hearing her words, I felt the muscles in my body relax. Well there you have it, I thought to myself. The perfect intervention. No need to add fuel to the fire. 

I smiled, thanked the Secretary, shut off the TV, and finished eating my lunch. Then, I went to my journal and wrote the following: 



Wise advice to remember. When you choose self-regulation over drama you’re no longer at the mercy of the outer world. Instead, you have your own back. 

And that’s self-love in action. 



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(for him or her self..)

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Cheryl Richardson

Cheryl Richardson is the New York Times bestselling author of several books including, Take Time for Your LifeLife MakeoversStand Up for Your LifeThe Unmistakable Touch of GraceThe Art of Extreme Self Care, You Can Create an Exceptional Life with Louise Hay, and her new book, Waking Up in Winter: In Search of What Really Matters at Midlife.

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