Shake It Off

It is very easy to write 'don't let other people's thoughts and opinions influence you or define you' - it's a really common phrase and I'm sure I've written it plenty of times myself. However, let's be real: it is one thing to write it or be inspired by it, and another thing entirely to learn to actually be that way.

It is a growth process that can take a lifetime, to be so strong within yourself that you don't sway from your truth and centre when others criticise, misunderstand or judge you. Some people feel completely debilitated by external harshness. Most of us fall somewhere in the range of small, medium or mega wobbling like one of those bowling pin dolls.

Last week I had to wonder if someone had thrown some kind of agitating dust in the air creating mass wobbling because there were more than a few comments happening (anonymously on my blog) mis-interpreting my words and the words of others, creating an atmosphere that felt extremely judgmental and button-pushy.

Since then I have read about other people feeling the same, with one well-known writer saying she needed to take a break from Facebook so intense was her experience. It is one thing for people who aren't really into this kind of material to be critical. Each to their own. But it more felt like a wave of energy triggering conscious awake people to pit themselves against each other. This wave didn't feel like the usual solar and cosmic waves, it felt quite dare I say intentionally disruptive. Divide and conquer anyone? Hmmm.... I don't say that to create any fear about who or what might have generated this wave (if indeed it was generated), but just to say heads up, if you are feeling this way take a moment to brush it off. Or put on Taylor Swift's song "Shake it off" and dance around: very effective!

I have to say on the odd occasion of receiving those kind of comments, I have a moment where I feel like disappearing offline, but do you stop your passion and stop connecting with all the people who resonate with you, just because of the few that don't? 

The answer for me is no, but I totally understand why so many people hesitate to emerge in their lives with their creativity, dreams, true self, sexuality, spiritual gifts or whatever the case may be. Not everyone will like you or what you do or what you have to say, and as strong as you may be it doesn't feel good to be on the receiving end of someone essentially telling you that your ideas/way of life/choices etc are 'wrong'. In hindsight you can laugh about it, but in the moment...blagh.

When I had my moment I turned within to see how I could shift the yukky feeling and was guided in this way: Ultimately we are all One. Every individual on this planet is part of the One Source. Based on that, aspects of my own Self made those comments that fired up emotion in me. I thought okay, let's act as if I said those things to my own self. Why would I say those things to myself? What must I believe deep down about myself ?

I highly recommend approaching any similar experiences you are having in this way. It was such a powerful exercise.

This took me to some core false beliefs that have been coming up strongly lately for yet another level of clearing and transformation related to not doing enough (What if I fail by not doing what I'm here to do, what if I'm not doing enough, how can I possibly be good enough in all areas (being a mum, being a wife, being a writer/teacher, being a friend) with only 24 hours in each day?!!)  

So what feels unpleasant can provide the best opportunity for shining a light on ever deeper aspects of your Shadow. Don't let other people super-impose their version of 'right' onto you, or allow their skewed version of you dictate who you know yourself to be. Don't get stuck in those moments, and we are human so they do come up for us all.

You can use these sorts of moments to turn the mirror around and extract some real gold from the emotions they trigger. can just dance around to Shake it off and let it go simple as that!

How have you all been feeling?


Gretchen 26th February 2015 10:13 am

Like always your words hit home and resonate for me. I am sorry you got splashed with the fears of others, but know that at least for me you have been a God send more than once.

Cheers on this beautiful day and thank you for all you have done for for so many.

terry vg. 26th February 2015 12:17 pm

I agree with Gretchen. Thank you Dana for your wise words. You are appreciated 26th February 2015 4:14 pm

So appropriate that I read this today as I was just telling my work colleagues to have this song in their head when someone starts bothering them! I know a lot of people that have been feeling the burn of hostile people recently and I have even been in terrible moods myself and find it hard to keep in check sometimes. There is definitely something in the air!
Thanks for your messages, it really does help.

debs go lightly 26th February 2015 4:25 pm

Hi Dana, thank you for your words which I find to be so encouraging.
I realise my own healing process goes a bit like this: I laugh to myself when anger is directed at me as it seems
so outrageous its comical,
then the hurt seeps in so I accept this feeling,
then I look within - is there a grain of truth? do I need to change something in
myself? And then this seems to release me somehow and I
realise how much pain the other person must be in to want
to lash out, and then I often experience deep feelings of love and the release of weeping.

Imagine a world where we do not impose on each other and we truly accept each other's right to be.
Imagine how loving and peaceful it would be.


Eyewitness 26th February 2015 5:50 pm

I personally find that absolutely nothing resonates with me and many people find any comment I make at all to be 'judgemental' or negative. I say, whats the point of sharing your opinion if you're not willing to listen to someone who disagrees with it? Learning to handle rejection is a powerful lesson every soul must master to move forward and where people got the idea that everything is supposed to be sweet and kind or its 'bad' its completely lost on me. I grow weary of happy people saying happy things and expecting all the unhappy people to just go away. Surely this path were all on is about facing truths and not just blowing smoke. If these belief systems work then shouldn't they work for everyone?? What then shall we do about all the poor suffering souls for whom these beliefs are NOT working?? The question is a valid one for me. Happiness has never been the goal we seek... for its just one side of the coin of happiniess/unhappiness. I come here to learn truths... not to be told sweet lies that make me feel better. Every idea is fodder for honest debate in the path to truth.

asphara 27th February 2015 1:04 am


I have been discerning in some of these negating reactions an intelligence to it that ought to be unmasked: other people's negative emotions and unresolved ego-aspects are forming a coalition to derail, limit or frustrate the divine plan. In other words, you must see that within people there are intelligent energies that want to upset you, and those people who carry them will be unwitting and perhaps very well meaning. This is part of the reason why to be centered in your own truth seems to be the only choice for today.

zorro 27th February 2015 8:11 am

"What then shall we do about all the poor suffering souls for whom these beliefs are NOT working??"

Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.
- Mark Twain

spiritdiver 27th February 2015 3:06 pm


Absolutely felt this same energy last week. And went through the same intense rounds of emotions. Of past patterns, but realized then as you say here, was another deep cleansing, to recognize after some tears and feeling sorry, we on souls personally call this to ourselves for healing.

In fact the people who mirror this to us our probably our most trustworthy of life would as we share the courage to reveal this in their eyes.

Fortunately this weekend is already feeling much better. Healing is on the way, the heart is now opened up that bit more. We are ready with confidence to trust in our inner selves more. I guess this is what this time is all about after all.

Much live and thanks for your writing!

spiritdiver 27th February 2015 3:12 pm

Much LOVE! :angel: :smitten:

Susan Tersigni 1st March 2015 4:25 pm

:angel: Shake it off is my mantra for releasing all negative energies that have attached to me physically and emotionally, lately I have noticed I must pull off that energy not just shake it off.

Don11 2nd March 2015 6:57 am

Thank you Gretchen,

Love to you,

Dana x

Don11 2nd March 2015 6:58 am

Thank you terry vg,

Love Dana x

Don11 2nd March 2015 6:59 am

:) True Susan!! Love Dana x

Don11 2nd March 2015 7:00 am

Thank you spiritdiver :)

Love Dana

Don11 2nd March 2015 7:01 am

Perfectly stated spiritdiver :)

Love Dana x

Don11 2nd March 2015 7:04 am

Thanks for sharing that Katsypie, it is so interesting to me that so many of us have the exact same experiences and feelings with each intense wave. I really appreciate everyone sharing openly.

Love Dana x

Don11 2nd March 2015 7:06 am

Really wise and insightful comment, thanks Asphara.

Love Dana x

Don11 2nd March 2015 7:07 am

Thanks Debs, beautiful words.

Love Dana x

Don11 2nd March 2015 7:40 am

Eyewitness I completely agree with you. I have always been one to focus on truth and consciousness and all that that encompasses, rather than happiness for happiness sake. I'm the first to say: look at your shadow, look at the crap under your carpets. And I do the same myself for myself.

I don't mind if people don't agree with me, actually I like a really good discussion with different points of view. What I don't like, as an example, is someone mis-interpreting what I am saying and based on that coming to some kind of conclusion about who I am - which is what happened last week more than once. And yes, clearly there was shadow stuff there which I looked into and emerged feeling transformed. So all good in the end.

Love Dana x

Deeni 2nd March 2015 1:13 pm

Thank You, Dana, for all of your messages. I read everything you post, and have felt literally 'Saved' many times by them. Thank You.

We are All here for our Soul's individual purpose. Each of Us is a significant piece to the Entire Puzzle. Who is to say that those that don't resonate with Dana's offerings aren't actually following their own true path?

What I know is that I am in control of Me, and only Me. And I work on that, on behalf of All. There will be naysayers, and judgmental people, but the way I see it, is that if they are picking on Me, then they are leaving someone else alone. Maybe that's the point?!

Much Love, Light, Compassion, and Inner Peace to All. :)

manu 4th March 2015 6:18 am

Hi Dana, thank you for your wonderful work. I find that folks who challenge us are skeptics demanding to be convinced, they even turn into our best fan once we offer them our attention and they make the shift. Just another bump on the road :) It is important we maintain our openheartedness and keep our language of love pristine. Looking forward to reading you soon!! Manu


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Energy Intuitive and Author of A New Chapter Dana Mrkich is an inspiring Writer, Speaker & Teacher with a passion for reminding others of their innate truth and essence. Holding the vision of a new reality from a young age guided by her star elders, Dana’s life focus has been to help people remember who they really are so that together we can create the best possible reality for ourselves and the planet.  

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