Who is really in control of your life? Until you understand the answer to this question, you will not be able to go past a certain point on your spiritual growth. Control is actually a conditioned belief, a belief that humanity holds that authoritative figures must be the ones to dictate laws, moral code and behaviors of another. But, when this is taking place, then a soul is not truly the master of their own life.
When you make a decision to do something, what is that decision based on? Does it come from a place of conformity, a place of moral judgment, or does it come from a place of absolute knowing from within you? As children, many souls are taught that to be an adult is to be in control, and yet when many of these same souls reach adulthood, they are not wanting to take control of their own lives, because they have become so accustomed to others making decisions for them.
The more that one can understand the root energy behind their own decision-making process, the more they can release the fears having to do with control. Some take this idea of control to a place where the control takes over. This can be seen in individuals with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, as they are trying to control things in their environment by the smallest of actions.
In actuality, there is no such thing as control, this is a man-made illusion. Control is simply one soul's idea of attempting to "normalize" their life. The idea of control for most souls is about doing things as they are "supposed" to be done. And, these ideas of normalization and supposed behaviors are simply based on collective agreements by humanity of what is "right" and what is "wrong."
In the spiritual realms, there is no such need for control because everything is about choice. In the world of spirit, every soul can do as they choose, and there are no judgments of these choices. In spirit, there are no means of attempting to control behavior, because it is not permitted to interfere with the choices of another.
Is there something in your life today that you have allowed to have control over you? Or, is there something that you are trying to control? What fear is behind that need? Why is being in control a necessity in your life? Try for one day to choose to not be in control, or to not be controlled by others. To do this all it takes is an extra second to think about what you are doing and saying. If the idea of control is not allowing you to be yourself, then it is no longer serving your best interest.
Try releasing control and embracing uncertainty. When you live in the now, you cannot struggle over what if this or that, you can only live in what is happening in that moment. And, living is about experiencing all things, good or bad; not trying to control them.