Do other people’s energies affect you?
You might be wondering how you can possibly stay positive around a negative person, or in a chaotic world.
If you are anything like me, you’re sensitive to other people’s energy. You can walk into a room and feel what’s been go on there. Or when you meet someone, you immediately know what they’re about.
This is a real gift, though it does have its challenges. For me, being sensitive to other people’s energy has been a lifelong lesson in boundaries and self-care. It always amazed me when people could be around anyone in any environment and remain undaunted.
I used to take things very personally. In fact, I took on other people’s energy as if it was my own!
Letting things, “roll off my back”, as others would encourage me to do, just wasn’t possible.
I’m an empath.
This means that I feel people’s emotions (and sometimes physical pain) as if they were my own. My guess is that you have some degree of this too. If you’ve ever struggled with any of the following, then you are most likely an empath too:
- feeling exhausted after being around groups
- being drained after you help others
- experiencing dramatic mood shifts
- wanting to please everyone
- compassion fatigue
If you weren’t hardwired to be sensitive to other people’s energy, you wouldn’t experience these things. Trying to brush things off or move on as if you don’t care is not how you roll!
Being an empath is a remarkable gift. You have emotional intelligence.
When channeled correctly, you have an intuitive awareness that guides you toward amazing opportunities. You have the ability to heal yourself and others.
If you’re unskilled about managing the energy you’re receiving, it can wreak havoc on your life.
In order to stay positive around other people, you must do the following:
Cleanse your aura every day
Your aura is interacting with other people’s energy. An empath’s aura is more porous than most people’s. Therefore you pick up energy like a sponge. If you keep absorbing energy without cleansing it from your aura, it will weigh you down and deplete you.
Make a conscious choice to bring light to your aura every day to wash away what doesn’t belong to you, and make your aura shiny and bright.
Stay grounded in your body
A tree that is rooted firmly in the Earth is not blown away by storms. Similarly, a person who is rooted in their body can remain healthy and happy without getting emotionally uprooted by other people’s dramas. The more firmly your energy is grounded, the more easily you can remain healthy and secure.
Tune into your inner voice rather than others
Empaths tend to be people pleasers. In order to keep relationship harmony, empaths have a tendency to over-give and make choices based on other people’s happiness rather than their own. In time, it becomes more challenging to know what you want, because you’re making choices for other people instead.
A healthy solution is to focus on what you want before you think about how it affects everyone else. This isn’t selfish (although if you’re not used to it you might feel like it is).
As an empath, you can ultimately have more clarity about what’s right for the good of all by first knowing what’s right for you.
Be direct instead of nice
Once you have clarity about what’s you truly want and what’s best for you, you can communicate that clearly and directly with others.
You might feel as if you’ll rock the boat by doing this. Ultimately, when people are honest and direct, it’s more harmonious for everyone involved. People will appreciate the clarity and you’ll feel better knowing you’re being true to yourself.
Raise your vibration to love
Love is the strongest energy in the Universe.
If other people around you are fearful or negative, it can wear you down. However, if you are elevating YOUR energy to the frequency of love, it can lift up others around you instead.
© Kari Samuels 2019. All Rights Reserved.