Never forget, God is MALE!

The views of humanity on so many things have been impacted by our ideas about God and about God’s desires that it’s hard to decide what other areas of life interaction to include on this list. The truth is, this exploration could take up an entire book. We’re not going to be that expansive. We’ll limit our survey to ten more subjects: Male and Female, Marriage, Sex, Homosexuality, Love, Money, Free Will, Suffering, Morality, and Death.

Let’s take a look at what our ancestors and our contemporary teachers have told us about the first two on this list today. Let’s see What God Wants.


Many humans have been told that What God Wants is for humanity to understand that God is male. The result is that most people who believe in a deity at all hold this to be true. The idea that God is masculine is so pervasive that it’s shocking to the ear to hear God referred to as “She.”

Many humans have also been told that God wants men and women to have particular roles and to be treated in particular ways in life, and that He has specified all of this in Holy Scripture.

One result of this teaching: Males are considered superior to females in nearly all of the world’s cultures. In some of those cultures this manifests as cultural norms that do not allow females to go to school, to hold jobs of authority or responsibility, to leave the home without being in the company of a blood male relative, or to permit any part of their body to be seen in public, requiring them to be covered from head to toe.

A woman’s testimony at Court is worth half of that of a man’s—meaning that it requires two female witnesses to meet the test of adequate proof. A woman’s testimony regarding a husband’s beatings, cruelty, or infidelity will go ignored unless she can produce a corroborating witness, whereas a man can send his wife to death by stoning by simply stating that she committed adultery. His singular assertion is sufficient.

A woman’s share of any inheritance is also accepted as being half of that of her brother. The logic behind this is that a man is financially responsible for his family, while a woman is not. This is the identical logic that, in other cultures, blocks women from earning the same pay as men for doing the same work. The fact that a man may remain unmarried all his life and wind up not having a family, or that many women become widows, or that women would not and should not have to concede this role to a man if she were treated equally, is, of course, ignored by this logic.

In some male-dominant cultures female’s genitals are mutilated, cut and sewn, in order to deprive them of sexual pleasure and thus reduce the temptation they may feel to engage in sexual encounters other than those demanded by their husbands. In some cases this is seen as a rite of passage rendering female children desirable, suitable, and worthy marriage material.

Other cultural norms reflecting extreme bias against females include the custom of blocking women from becoming clergy in many religions or rising to power and authority in any civil, legal, or business enterprise, or holding any major leadership position in politics or government.

A handful of women in some cultures have overcome these customs (in many cultures they are still not allowed to even try), but always it’s a struggle, always it’s the notable exception, always it’s a steep uphill climb to be accepted in most high profile occupations or powerful or influential roles within the global society.

Katrina Brooks, of Rome, Georgia, U.S.A., knows all about that. According to an account written by Louise Chu for The Associated Press on September 25, 2004, Katrina is a member of the Southern Baptist Church who felt a calling and wanted to become a minister. She enrolled in the Baptist Theological Seminary at Richmond, Virginia, then found a church that would accept both her and her husband, Dr. Tony Brooks, who was already ordained, as co-pastors. North Rome Baptist Church in Rome, Georgia invited the couple to lead its congregation in November of 2003.

Not everyone was pleased.

A revision of the Baptist Faith and Message in 2000 takes a hard line on female pastors, the AP’s Louise Chu reports. The denomination’s chief doctrinal statement says that “the office of pastor is limited to men as qualified by Scripture,” citing the Bible at 1 Timothy 2:11-14. That passage reads, “Let a woman learn in silence in all submissiveness. I permit no woman to teach or to have authority over men; she is to keep silent.”

Two weeks after Katrina and her husband arrived at their new church several of her fellow clergy (all men) called meetings of the Floyd County Baptist Association to discuss the matter. They wanted the association to adopt a position that would, in effect, force the Rome church to leave the association.

This difference in the treatment of the genders is, many of the world’s people believe, What God Wants. After all, the Bible says so. And so do the Scriptures of other religions.


Many humans have been told that What God Wants is for marriage to be an everlasting union between a man and a woman, for better or for worse, for the purpose of propagating the species and maintaining a civil society organized into family units, which supports God’s agenda for humanity.

One result of this teaching: In most religious cultures ending a marriage for whatever reason, including mental or physical cruelty, is deeply discouraged, and one major religion tells its followers that they may never divorce, may never remarry in the church nor receive the church’s sacraments if they do divorce, and may never marry another person who has been divorced.

In many places and cultures marriage rules are established by religion, then become civil law, limiting and constricting the behavior of marriage partners—and those limits remain in place for life. Chief among those limits is what humans call “fidelity.” Human beings living in marriage must remain faithful to each other. That is, they may not have sexual experiences with anyone else for the rest of their lives—not as a matter of personal devotion or sacred agreement, but as a matter of civil law.

This should not be surprising, since, as has just been noted, prohibitions against many kinds of private sexual activity have been placed in the common culture by religions. According to their accounts of What God Wants, human beings may not have sex with anyone outside of marriage, with anyone prior to marriage, and, therefore, should they never marry, at no time during their entire lives.

This is the expectation, and humans are told that the breaking of this taboo can lead to severe punishments, from God and from the social environment.

As a result, marriage is entered into by many young people around the world who are neither ready for such a commitment nor sufficiently mature for the responsibilities attached to it, but who are unwilling to endure any longer the prohibition against sexual experience.

The idea of male supremacy, drawn from the concept of God as male, has a major effect in many marriage scenarios. In some cultures marriage is considered a form of ownership and servitude, with the woman being the owned object—actually paid for with a dowry—and the male being the person served. Even in cultures with less extreme views a wife is expected to be “obedient” to her husband, and to be subservient to him in every way. The man is “the head of the household.”

This is, many people believe, What God Wants.


zorro 16th June 2011 5:33 am

And let's not forget that he has "long white hair" and a "white beard"!

isatori 16th June 2011 7:46 am

Because the scriptures are vastly misinterpreted, many woman are treated poorly.

However ~ have you ever been a woman Neale? Do you know what it is like to transition from a worldly perspective of womanhood to a traditional and biblical perspective of femininity? Both present their challenges because of our imperfect humanness. Yet from experience, the greatest challenge of becoming more traditional is simply accepting the simplicity in our roles as women. In the midst of being taken care of with our burdens lightened in the process of procuring survival ~ things are so easy that at times it is too easy. In which the challenges that come are due to our own unwillingness to simply be at peace with an easy life.

Which is a perfect opportunity to overcome our greatest challenge by beginning to learn to live in peace ~ to live in a heaven like state continually while on earth. It is preparing us for the reality of what is to come. So that we Will be comfortable in heaven.

isatori 16th June 2011 7:51 am

You paint this absolutely horrid picture of a godly marriage. I can tell you from personal experience ~ my godly marriage has been much more challenging and rewarding than what it was like living in a toxic world where liberated women confuse personal strength and unwillingness as goodness and peace.

isatori 16th June 2011 8:22 am

A last thought:

As an American Christian, I have a deep respect and admiration for the women of the Muslim tradition. They protect themselves both physically and emotionally from what the American man has become, which in consequence is very damaging to women as a whole. I am unsure if you can relate to the experience of not being able to go out in public without a man staring at you because of your physical appearance. I am sure you have not been in the position of being desired solely for your body ~ instead of your heart and mind. There is personal freedom in guarding one self against mans desire ~ in order to be allowed the opportunity to simply live the simple life we were given.

The most beautiful thing I have witnessed in the U.S. was a plain amish woman, head bowed and following her husband as he protected her from this world as she simply gathered a few necessities for living. He had the most striking, honest, pure hearted and good eyes I have ever seen. I am thankful he made it a point in forcing me to look into them. I would have never seen such beauty, had he not.

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isatori 16th June 2011 9:24 am

No ~ This is my last word.

Once again ~ A Man is trying to tell women what is wrong with their world, and their society ~ and who they should wish to be as 'independent' and worldly women.

God Forbid (saying such sarcastically, and in a way as to annunciate the frustration in another man telling us who we should be) that women actually choose to be Godly women by their own self choice.

You wish us to have a voice? Fine. Hear us then. Many of us Love Gods way. We love who we are when serving our family while being taken care of ourselves.

Are you going to further suppress us by telling us our choice is wrong? Which goes against everything you are attempting to do in giving us a voice.

I suppose I will go have a conversation with God about that. ;~)

Man really needs to get over himself.

COBALT 16th June 2011 11:00 am

:smitten: Wow. Super intense. Love your life and follow your heart. It's REAL. It's simple.

shapeshifter 16th June 2011 12:57 pm

The worst kind of imprisonment is to believe that you are free while you are enslaved.
It is a self perpetuating situation because there is no incentive to break free.

pat2000 16th June 2011 2:30 pm

Neal, with all due respect, just what was the POINT of this post - I guess I 'expected' it to end on an UPLIFTING note... (or is this an excerpt from your latest book?)

Hmmm especially on the coattails of a MOST FEMININE time, that of this powerful lunar eclipse.

PLease, respond...


Bob 16th June 2011 6:25 pm

Muslim women are routinely killed by their male family members for any number of violations of Sharia law. They are called "honor killings" and in countries where Sharia is supreme there is no punishment for it.

A recent expose of how some females are treated in some Amish families, including beatings and forced rapes, reveals that here, too, the subjugation of women because they are women is a dirty hidden little secret. But at least most Amish families allow their young women to participate in rumspringa, which gives them a chance to escape. There is no escape for a female born into a family who follows strict Sharia law, unless she is willing to risk her life by running away.

A marriage should be a partnership. If a man or woman wants to live in a subservient way in a relationship, then they can make that choice. But when that position is forced on them, or they are brainwashed into believing they have to take that position, then that is a form of slavery.

And there are many who have been brainwashed by their religion into thinking that is the way it should be.

kamilla 17th June 2011 2:10 am

Excellent!! Thank you ! is sooo needed to brake the old, open the minds and bring FREEDOM in New Era - but NOT easy judging from comments so far. Stereotypes are engraved soo deep... but we have 300 years to do it, and a lot of help! Thank you from all my heart!

kamilla 17th June 2011 2:21 am

Dear Pat2000 - point is clear - to open the eyes to the difference between religions and spirituality - to welcome and speed up the NEW ERA which will change the way we are, think, work, and bring freedom and JOY to all.

isatori 17th June 2011 5:44 am

This is addressed towards someone who once addressed me without stating my name. ;~)

The fact is ~ is that in every single walk of life there is rape. There is killing. There is the most horrid of things imaginable occurring on every level of life on earth. These things are not subject to solely "religious" philosophy. They are purely subject to the elements of man kinds heart.

You can take a woman out of these traditions ~ but ~ you can not take her simply out of the world she lives in. The answer is ~ focus on Men. Talk down to the men. Not me. I have had my share of MANS evil ways. Not Gods. Mans. And I can tell you from experience ~ it does not matter whether a woman is "in" or "out' of "slavery". Whether she is free ~ or bonded. It does not matter. As a man is still a man in every country ~ spiritual path ~ and walk of life.

You may consider "slavery" to a good man a thing to pity. However ~ one persons slavery is another persons freedom. Freedom from men like you.


isatori 17th June 2011 6:13 am

The scariest thing about this entire scenario ~ is that you want to take these women out of the only life they have known their entire lives (which will be traumatic for them) ~ and place them in a world of complete freedom where the exact same things, *and worse things*, occur ~ without preparing them for the reality of such.

It is sad. I feel sorry for these women. And, I fully understand why Amish women choose to return to their homes. Most likely just as the muslim women would.

Your world is not better. It is just different. A type of different that is well for you, but not necessarily for others.


Reid Scott Anderson 18th June 2011 10:40 am

Another wonderful post from the author of Whining with God. Nice.

Dorothy Lenore 19th June 2011 12:32 am

A most timely, timeless post. Love and gratitude!

rayofblue 19th June 2011 12:57 am

Oh dear, after reading some of these comments I'm thinking it's probably best not to read comments on spiritlibrary any more. Not good to get the blood boiling around eclipse time.
Thankyou so much Neale, I found this a very timely reminder of the situation in the world. By simply stating the facts, you have somehow uplifted the feminine spirit. What a magnificent opportunity we have now to (re)create our own reality.

rayofblue 19th June 2011 3:14 am

Wow, what an amazing link and an amazing woman!! Thankyou so much for the connection celestialcelestine.

pollymcleod 19th June 2011 11:00 am

Mr. Walsch, I find your writing style to be very condescending. People who read spiritual material grow ever more educated, while you continue to preach as if to children. If you don't have anything new and different to say, you could consider saying nothing. You're preaching to the choir with this series.

Yelana 24th June 2011 4:10 am

Thank goodness for rational thinking. We are slowly heaving ourselves out of the dark ages. Guess it takes time to shatter illusions. But illusions are what they are.
Isn't this fun?


M 31st December 2011 11:17 pm

The smiling, bowing is at best coping, at worst denial. The truth is that you choose to advocate your life's responsibilty to someone, not because it was how you were meant to be, but because it is an easier life. The truth is that you've grown to believe it is the true way to Light, simply because you've been conditioned to do so from those for whom it would benefit. Like a kind of spiritual Stolkholm's Syndrome.

"Draw near, woman, and hear what I have to say. Turn your curiousity for once towards useful objects, and consider the advantages which nature gave you and society ravished away. Come and learn how you were born the companion of man and became his slave; how you grew to like the condition and think it natural; and finally how the long habituation of slavery so degraded you that you preferred its sapping but convenient vices to the more difficult virtues of freedom and repute. If the picture I shall paint leaves you in command of youselves, if you can contemplate it without emotion, then go back to your futile pastames; there is no remedy; the vices have become the custom."


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Neale Donald Walsch

Neale Donald Walsch is a modern day spiritual messenger whose words continue to touch the world in profound ways. With an early interest in religion and a deeply felt connection to spirituality, Neale spent the majority of his life thriving professionally, yet searching for spiritual meaning before beginning his now famous conversation with God.


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