The Million Dollar Question

Hello dear friends,

I hope this post finds you well and happy. What do you think the number one question asked of psychics and intuitive readers is? The answer might surprise you: “WHEN will I meet my soul mate?” or “Who is she/he?” It surprises me that this question often surpasses other spiritual questions like, “Who am I?”? “What is the Divine Purpose of my life?” or “Why am I here?” This just goes to show how strong of a desire and drive it is for many people to connect with their mates.

I don’t think this is a negative desire so to speak, but I have often seen the negativity that can arise in the frantic search to attain this goal. For example, some people are so obsessed with finding this person that it erodes their peace and happiness in the moment. They can also be so fixated on what this person will look or be like that they might be missing someone that could be wonderful for them right under their nose!

The Keepers (guides of the Akashic Records) have distinguished the difference between soul mates and what they call our True One or Mate. Soul mates are often(but not always) fellow travelers that we share karma with. The attraction to them is often very strong but the experience does not always promise to be pleasant! Soul mates show us our soul truly and shine a light on our fears, inadequacies and other dark places. They can be a blessing but sometimes this can feel like a curse! Exposing our vulnerabilities to ourselves and others is never easy, but tremendous growth can come of it. Many soul mate relationships are short-lived and are not life partnerships. They are like shooting stars, beautiful and intense, but not designed to last.

It has been said by many spiritual teachers that it is our job to love and appreciate ourselves first and foremost and this is wise advise. Looking for anyone else to “complete us” is a misguided quest. We are full and complete within ourselves having a friend, lover and confidante to share our bounty with is a most worthy goal. I have seen it so many times over the years with clients that when they stop obsessing and truly start living their lives and expressing the gifts and beauty of their own soul, their mate appears soon thereafter. Their joy and abundance is like a beacon that pulls their True One to them. It is also important for us to know that if we do not attract our mate to us that we have not failed in any way. There will be some people where remaining single is more in alignment with their karma and their soul’s journey.

Wishing you all joy & peace in these magical times.

Rev. Irma Kaye Sawyer



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Rev. Irma Kaye Sawyer

Rev. Irma Kaye Sawyer is an akashic records reader, interfaith minister, intuitive counselor, energy healing practitioner and writer. She currently resides in Laguna Hills, California. Irma has been involved in the holistic healing arts community as a practitioner and teacher since 1992.

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