Unlucky in Love? Broken Contracts & Star-Crossed Soul Mates

Hello friends. Well it’s Valentine’s week and lots of folks have love on their mind. Happy in love, no love, brokenhearted, bitter, or just plain angry. Almost everyone’s got a story to tell, and I certainly am no exception. Despite the title, I assure you this isn’t a gloomy blog post and we’re going to cover some interesting ground here.

In my work over the years with the Edgar Cayce material and my own work in the Akashic Records, I’ve seen many interesting and compelling things, in the relationship area especially. According to Cayce and many other spiritual teachers, relationship is one of the “fast tracks” on the spiritual curriculum of self-knowledge and awareness; due to the powerful mirrors that they provide for us as a clue to our own deep motivations and unhealed places. They are also a powerful arena for higher consciousness, expansion and joy too.

Same story. New Edition

Have you ever wondered why the *same* person keeps showing up with a different name and a different face, but with the SAME message? The Universe in its infinite wisdom will often repeat lessons, and players in our individual karmic drama until we master what we have agreed to learn. One of the beautiful things about Akashic/Soul level work is that you can truly see how compassionate and wise that Source/Spirit is, and also that we are when in our expanded, Higher Self level.

Well I’m here looking through an old picture frame, just waiting for the perfect view. I hope something special will step into my life, another fine edition of you. A pin-up in shades of blue. – Bryan Ferry - Editions of you – Roxy Music

In some cases, it actually MAY be the same person (that is if that suits your particular beliefs and/or experience.) Here’s the link to my blog post on Soul Recognition from 2011.

Contract Breakers & Renegotiations

I have seen many cases both in my own life and in the life of my clients where there was something that was spiritually contracted to happen between two people, but for certain reasons this did NOT occur. The Keepers offered some guidance on this subject back in 2011:

Beloveds, with so much emphasis on relationship lately in your Grand Cross energies (2010-2015,) there have been more questions on Soul Contracts between people. We spoke in the past of when you feel that your contract to others has been fulfilled; but the question has been presented, “What if someone has a contract with you and they are the ones that walk away from it? How do you know if you have a contract in the first place?”

First of all we prefer to use the word “agreement” as it has a less binding tone to it. Yes an agreement IS a form of a contract, but due to free will and other factors, you are always free to make changes to the agreement. Those that carry soul agreement with each other will often feel a deep and resounding soul attraction, which does not always have to manifest on a romantic level. Soul agreements besides love/life partners can also manifest in teacher-student, familial, co-worker, or guru-disciple relationships as well.

There is a tendency for the people to use your term, “bite off more than they can chew,” karmically and cosmically; in the sense that often the inertia of 3D life on the planet can overtake them. It certainly does take faith, courage and resolve to fulfill one’s obligations spiritual and otherwise, and not everyone is always up to the task, especially if they are dealing with what is called “Soul Fatigue.” Which is a fatigue at a spiritual or soul level, that can be temporarily debilitating.

For the one that has turned away from their agreement with another may find themselves feeling confusion and in some cases a deep guilt. Some may choose to numb or medicate these feelings away with drugs and/or alcohol, for deep down they know that there is something amiss. The remedy for this predicament is for the individual to admit and accept that they have changed the course of their life’s path; and to do this consciously. If they are able to make amends to the other party involved, this will help ease the sting of the situation.

For the one that is holding up their end of the contract to so speak, there is also often confusion and misunderstanding regarding the other person. There also can be a form of spiritual co-dependency as this person “hangs in there,” and waits for the other person to “come around.” To allow someone time to fulfill their agreement is loving and generous, but to invest an undue amount of time in a relationship that is not going to flourish is another. If you feel that you are in a relationship with someone that is unwilling and/or unable to fulfill their agreement with you, bless and release them. It is important that you leave the relationship as neutral and calm as possible. There are times where you will be able to meet again, if that is mutually amenable. If it is not, let go with love. There is a saying,”There are times when you must remove someone from of your life, but never kick them out of your heart,” and this is well said.

In these times of discernment, you are invited to check up and search your heart if you find yourselves in a scenario like this. If you require further guidance, a trained spiritual counselor with experience in soul agreements may be helpful. – The Keepers, 9.22.11

If you find yourself in the middle of a drama with a reluctant soul mate type, have heart. I’ve got a little something I like to call the “Triple Yes.”

1) Can people change? YES. Most definitely.

2) Do miracles and Shifts occur? YES. Every day.

3) Until you “seal the deal” should you keep your options open? YES!

It’s also good to remember that you really do HAVE TIME. Egoic/ordinary mind loves to trick us that now is all that we’ve got. In once sense it’s true, but it’s also not good to think that our story with another human being has to be resolved and tied off in a neat little bow immediately. Sometimes, that is just not going to happen. At least not on “our” time. There comes a point with a star-crossed lover or friend that you simply must accept things for how they are, even if they aren’t exactly what you wanted. You can’t push the river as the old saying goes, and you can’t make someone love you or be ready for relationship when they are not. That’s just a fact, though I never seem to get a lot of fans for saying it. :)

I sit here on the stairs, ’cause I’d rather be alone. If I can’t have you right now, I’ll wait dear. Sometimes I get so tense but I can’t speed up the time, but you know love there’s one more thing to consider. Said woman take it slow and it’ll work itself out fine, you and I’ll just use a little patience. Said sugar take the time cause the lights are shining bright, you and I’ve got what it takes to make it. We won’t fake it and I’ll never break it. – Izzy Stradlin, “Patience” by Guns & Roses

Looking for love in all the wrong places?

I know you’ve probably heard it many times before, so I will keep this part short. Ronna Herman sums it up very succinctly with her quote below. Looking for anyone to “complete us,” is a slippery slope, and for obvious reasons. To connect with another human being from our joy, and wholeness (holiness,) is a very different experience than leading with our wounds. Dysfunctional relationships DO have their place however, as we can learn just as efficiently from what NOT to do, than from what to do. It’s important to remember that no matter how it feels, we are NOT being punished by the Universe or any higher power. To quote the brilliant Alan Watts, “When you get the message, you can hang up the phone.” What can I say? I know for myself I had to answer a lot of wrong numbers along the way.

Love as an external focus, exterior to you, will always bring a sense of vulnerability, always needing constant validation by someone or something. Love as an internal focus projected outward is a constant flow of self-assurance, of self-acceptance, always striving to incorporate and project more of this blissful feeling of unity and harmony with all creation. – Ronna Herman

In the end, it boils down to one thing: self-love. That’s really what its all about anyway, as unromantic as that sounds. When we are centered in our own truth and joy and magnetize partners in from THAT place, it’s a whole new ball game. I can tell you from personal experience, it’s worth the wait. ? ?

Happy Valentine’s Day. Love & blessings all.


NN 14th February 2013 10:22 am

I met my Twin Soul last year... And it has been a relationship of extreme love and chaos. We both come from inceridbly broken and abusive families... I have always had a temper but never been abusive, a few months ago, the anger inside me has just hit the roof.. and i have begun get physically and verbally abusive.. i never knew i was this person.. after running away from everything my mother did to me as a child Its breaking me to see that i am just like her... I say things like her.. behave like her.. i dont think i have the capacity to fight this.. i feel so broken.. i dont understand where this rage comes from.. i have never felt it before and i dont know what to do.. i cannot accept this person filled with hatred.. i dont know why this is happening... I really dont. its breaking me.

shapeshifter 14th February 2013 1:58 pm

A lot of good information here. Thank you.

Olga 14th February 2013 3:58 pm

Dear NN

I understand your desperation and guilt feelings.
(By the way I broke up my soulmate-relation too because I suddenly got so angry about something stupid he said and pushed my button which I was not even aware of... that I broke the friendship and really told him off. It has not been repaired until now and I suffered from real heartbreak from which I slowly recover because I felt it was just such beautiful relationship until a certain point...)
Anyway, soulmates are there to make us look closer and to develop. This can be extremely painful.
The idea has come to me that maybe you have not quite "forgiven" your mother and that you carry her faults with you as shadow - which means suppressed in yourself. We often thought "I never want to be like my mother" and thru this unforgivingness hide this trait as shadow.
I am now finally able to thank my soulmate that he took the role to show me my weaknesses such as jealousy. And to really put me on the path to self-love, which means not only be self-forgiving but to wholly say YES to my life and myself.

Olga 14th February 2013 4:00 pm


By the way : It also showed me how much pain I still carried around me and also now my desire for Love is arised, which was not there for a long time.

zorro 14th February 2013 6:02 pm


How refreshing to hear from a voice who cuts through Holi-day syrup and sap, and puts a new twist on a courtly (man-made) calendar marker. Happy Whole-Mark holiday! My holi-day card to all!

It's worth the wait to have the real deal. It start's with self-love! He/She is "leaping upon the mountains,(and)skipping upon the hills" for re-union with you. What happens from there in the outer manifestation, well, it just might blow your socks off! (you think?)!

akashicstargirl 14th February 2013 6:11 pm

Hello Zorro,
Thanks so much for your witty and observant comments! I'm so glad you enjoyed it. Love Whole-Mark Holiday, especially. :)

zorro 14th February 2013 6:26 pm

Thank you, akashicstargirl babe! Saint Valentine hears you and nods approval, from the Omni-verse.

This is what we need more of. It's a new day so let's start FOCAL-IZING the newness that we are at heart in our our core, and start expressing the magic we know now! I welcome all of this and call it in abundantly NOW in the name of all we physically, mentally, and spiritually represent for the fullness of time that we are now in, and that we consciously asked for, and to be an active part of!

cyndy 14th February 2013 6:43 pm

I see this new world we are creating as the time humans begin to realize(real eyes) that we can now BE fulfilled. No one else needs to fill me nor I them. We are beings of love. Each of us IS love. I will go so far as to say the give and take will dissolve and there will be just equal exchange. So, if I am fulfilled and I am love.And you are fulfilled and you are love why do we seek relationship? Because it enhances our experience. Because the heart desires assurance, connection, bonding. The soul desires to be met. to be fully known, acknowledged and recognized by other souls
I even think love is NOT a verb for me as that puts a whole lot of conditions on it.
Still smiling about the Happy Wholemark.

zorro 14th February 2013 7:56 pm

"...Because the heart desires assurance, connection, bonding. The soul desires to be met. to be fully known, acknowledged and recognized by other souls..."

Yeah, you've got something there, Cyndy. This is what it's all about in my book.

blj 16th February 2013 9:02 am

I love reading all the comments from this community, it's a real pleasure! Thank-you Ben and Mariu :smitten: You are my newspaper in a big comfy chair at the end of the day~

Expansion 17th February 2013 7:59 pm

What a wonderful Sharing Irma <3

Expansion 17th February 2013 8:01 pm

NN you maybe in a co-dependent relationship so you may need to find yourself a counsellor or visit www.drirene.com to find out more.

Spirit Library 18th February 2013 8:20 am

@ Blj,

Thank you so much for your words!!! They make us soooo happy <3

Many Blessings to you...

Ben & Mariù

MariaC 8th September 2017 2:21 pm

I am so happy this year because the only man i love with my life who left me many years ago is back to me last week through the help of Papa Ork on the 2nd of July 2017 i came across a testimony which said Papa Ork help him to get his girlfriend back so i decided to contact Papa ORk through his email at:(Orkstarspell@gmail. com), to my greatest surprise yesterday my ex Husband called me and beg me to reconsider him into my life and today we are living happily as one family again through the help of Papa. if you want your ex back or you want your lover to love you and stay with you forever contact him now through his email above or visit orkstarspell. tk


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Rev. Irma Kaye Sawyer is an akashic records reader, interfaith minister, intuitive counselor, energy healing practitioner and writer. She currently resides in Laguna Hills, California. Irma has been involved in the holistic healing arts community as a practitioner and teacher since 1992.

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